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Heather Flake

: Marriage Coach for Christian Women

Coaching Philosophy

I help Christian women who are married, but feel alone, resentful, and guilty in their marriage. I help women to uncover their stories, connect with themselves, and recognize how much power and choice they have in their marriage.

You love your spouse, you are grateful for your marriage. But how come nobody told you it would be THIS hard? You feel alone, resentful, and guilty, and then you feel even worse for feeling the way you feel! You are married, you should simply be happy and grateful right?

Wrong. You are allowed to feel however you currently feel in your marriage. But, I believe that you deserve to feel all the feels without making your emotions mean negative things about yourself. Nothing is wrong with you, marriage is supposed to be hard!

Before you got married you had all kinds of ideas and expectations on what it would be like. The honeymoon is over, and well uh, really, this is what I signed up for?!

I believe that you don't need your spouse to be on board in order for your marriage to improve. Your spouse does not need to change in order for you to feel better or get different results.

I don't work with couples, I work with YOU.

Your marriage is hard because of the thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself and your spouse, and all of that is totally in your control.

We cannot change your spouse, but you can change YOU so that you can create a marriage you are totally in love with.




Work with Me

I know what it is like to be married to an amazing person, AND feel resentful, annoyed, guilty, and just bad.

You want things to get better, you want help, you want to change, but your spouse doesn't.

I have great news for you, I don't need to ever talk to your spouse, I just need YOU! So much can shift in your marriage by you deciding to do your own work.

Click here to set up a free consultation call with me, where we can decide if we are a good fit for each other.