What I do
I help men stop drinking alcohol.
I spent most of my adult life drinking, taking drugs and not taking responsibility for myself, my actions or my future.
Some might say that sounds like fun.
Well, what started out as harmless fun (mostly), gradually became a dependence on drinking, not only to escape life challenges but to also have fun in life.
Bit of a double bind you might say.
The last time I woke up hungover, I realised I had become the father I’d always promised myself I wouldn’t be.
Distracted, resentful and prioritising my life around alcohol.
Something had to change.
That day I made a decision to stop drinking for a year. Within months I knew what was true for me. A life without alcohol was far greater than one with it.
I got clear on WHY I had to make this change in my life no matter what.
I stopped drinking because I wanted to be a positive role model to my children.
I wanted to break the chain of generational alcoholism of males in my family.
I wanted to do more, be more, and feel more, because I knew it was possible but alcohol was holding me back.
Why I Work With Men
I work with men because I see how hard it can be for guys to ask for help, to admit they need support. Especially when our identity (ego) is under threat.
The conditioning I received growing up around being a man was to just get on with it, man up and that crying was weak.
This led to me thinking I had to deal with things on my own, to not show any vulnerability…. for my very manliness was at stake.
I repressed and denied any emotion with alcohol or so I thought.
The trouble with repressing how you feel is that emotions are like water, they always find a way out and not in the way you want.
I want to show men that they’re not alone and that the habit of drinking means f*ck all about who they are as a person.
We’re at an amazing place in evolution where we can change the narrative of what it means to be a man in this world.
We can have a positive impact on future generations of men by embracing our vulnerabilities, understanding our emotions are what make us human and giving ourselves the love and acceptance we always wanted.
Together we work on creating a life where you are no longer making decisions based on whether you can have a drink or not.
We uncover and unlearn all of the beliefs, rules and associations you have created around alcohol and why you think you need it.
By focusing on all that sobriety has to offer, instead of focusing on what you think you’ll be missing out on.
We’ll create awareness around your thinking and how powerfully it can change your life.
You’ll learn how to be present with your body and your emotions. You’ll learn how to respond vs reacting to life’s events. You’ll discover the truth about alcohol and its effects on you.
By developing a relationship with yourself that is so solid that you can do f*cking anything in this world.
– More time, money and energy
– Better relationships with yourself, your partner and your family
– Improved health, sleep and skin
– Less anxiety, self-loathing and resentment
– Increased self-esteem, discipline and purpose
These are just the results of what stopping drinking looks like.
You’ll also learn how to manage your own mind, how to overcome your primitive brain’s desire for survival and pleasure. You’ll know what your values are and how you can live by them and so much more…
“Every ending is the beginning of something else” – Marc Chernoff
What do you want your something else to be? ….. it’s waiting for you.
We only get one ride of this thing called life, I want yours to be one you look back on and feel f*cking proud of how you’ve shown up in this world.