How to Drink Less
What would happen if you didn’t want alcohol? What if you didn’t even like it?
How would your life change?
I used to have an overdesire for alcohol and I deconditioned myself to not want it. I used to think that I didn’t want to go out at night if I couldn’t have alcohol. I thought alcohol made me feel connected, that it helped me have fun.
This is not true.
In fact, I have found the opposite to be true.
Alcohol provides you with a false pleasure. Once you decondition your brain to drink less you will open up the doors for more intense experiences.
In this training I am going to share with you the five steps on how to drink less. If you’d like to watch the video training, click the button below so you can put this information into action and begin your journey towards drinking less right away.
Many people start drinking because of social climates. It is what we are supposed to do, right? It is how we celebrate. It is how we have fun. It makes us sophisticated. This is what we have been conditioned to think.
I used to think if I didn’t have alcohol in my life that it wouldn’t be as good. The truth is that our brain mixed with alcohol makes us think we are having a better time, when in fact we are not.
How do you feel after you drink? Are you hungover, do you have a headache, or are you lethargic? Maybe you feel disappointed in yourself and make a mental promise that you won’t drink that much again.
And then you do.
And you beat yourself up.
And this happens over and over and over.
I know, I have been there.
In reality, we aren’t having more fun. Our brain is tricking us.
This brings us to our first step in drinking less.
Step #1: Neutralize your drinking.
If I say to you that I am going to take alcohol out of your life completely, do you have an emotional reaction? Do you feel deprived? Disappointed? Sad?
If you said yes, then alcohol has way too much meaning in your life and you need to dismantle your belief system about it.
Do this for yourself.
The first step in neutralizing your drinking is to understand what alcohol is and what it does to your brain.
What is alcohol?
It is a liquid.
Just a drink.
It only has meaning because you give it meaning.
Take that away.
It may feel different than drinking water or Coke or juice because of how it affects the brain.
Let me explain.
If you are really thirsty—super thirsty—just walked through the desert thirsty.
And you take a drink of water.
How delicious is that water? It is pretty great, right? That response is dopamine. It is a subtle response. You have your water and you are good. You don’t crave more. The need is fulfilled.
Alcohol is completely different. Alcohol is a concentrated substance. It is not natural like water, it is man made. When you consume an unnatural concentrated substance the neurotransmitter in your brain is unnatural. As a result, your brain experiences a concentrated effect of dopamine.
It is like eating a grape versus drinking wine.
When you have a dopamine response your primitive brain gets really excited and is naturally designed to memorize it and what is around it so that you do it again and again.
Everything becomes more attractive and it’s not neutral anymore.
We don’t look at a glass of wine and view it like soda water. That is because it now has a neural transmitter reaction and our brain creates an overdesire.
We are faking our primitive brain out to think that something unnatural is the key to survival. You have to neutralize that. You have to have your human intellectual brain talk to your primitive brain and say, “Hey. This is just a bunch of BS. Don’t listen to it.”
So how do you know when it has been neutralized?
You know you haven’t neutralized alcohol when you want it more and more.
Step #2: Decide what you want and why.
The next step is to decide what you want. Do you want to no longer desire alcohol or do you want to just drink less? Do you want to never drink again or do you want to have an occasional glass of wine?
Why do you want to never drink again? Why do you want to drink less, but don’t want to fully commit to giving it up completely?
This is important.
Only you can decide what you want and why.
If I could take away all the desire you had to drink alcohol, would you let me?
Would you be more free if you didn’t have alcohol in your life?
If you decide you want to be someone who drinks a little bit of alcohol, just make sure you really like your reason.
Is there a good reason to drink? Is it worth it?
My want was to completely stop drinking alcohol and to no longer desire it. I realized that people who don’t care for alcohol don’t ever think about alcohol. I wanted to be that person. I wanted to be free of all thoughts and desire for alcohol.
Once you make your decision, put on your boxing gloves and get ready for a brawl with your primitive brain.
Step #3: Understand the conflicts between your primitive brain and prefrontal cortex.
We know that your primitive brain is getting a concentrated dose of dopamine when you drink. Your primitive brain wants alcohol and that's all it cares about.
It is like a toddler wanting a candy bar.
It’s saying, “give me, give me, give me.” And it is throwing a tantrum.
Once you understand this, you can manage it.
There is another part of your brain called the prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is the human part of your brain that is making decisions ahead of time in order to care for your long term needs. It is the parent part of the brain that teaches the toddler part of your brain that a banana would be better than a candy bar.
The prefrontal cortex is designed to overcome the primitive brain.
That is how we have evolved as a human species.
Once you understand that the primitive brain is often working against us in modern day times and that you have the power to overrule it, you will be able to coach yourself to no longer desire alcohol.
Step #4: Make a drink plan.
Even the best intentions will fail if you don’t have a plan.
Whatever your decision is, you need to make a plan.
If your decision was to not drink at all then your plan is to not drink. You will also need a plan for how you will handle social situations that involve alcohol.
There are two ways to handle social situations:
- Resist the urge.
- Allow the urge to be there and experience it without resisting.
True success comes when you allow the urge to be there without resisting. Let the urge come and don’t answer it.
This is how you deconstruct your desire for alcohol.
People say that if you want to give up something (alcohol, sugar, etc.) that you should stay away from it. I say do the opposite. Allow it to be there. Allow the desire to be there unanswered.
The more you see something, the more you become bored with it. You decondition your desire by allowing alcohol to be present, recognizing the urge, and then doing it again and again and again.
If you are offered a glass of wine and you really want it—there is nothing wrong with that. It is not hurting you. Allowing urges is not painful. It is not comfortable, but it is not painful. This is not the same as resisting.
This is a skill that allows your primitive brain to have a fit and then you ignore it.
Once you have mastered this skill, you can apply it to other areas in your life. It is the same skill to use for stopping overeating or not procrastinating.
Step #5: Stay 100% committed by allowing urges and feelings to be there.
The last step is to achieve your end goal by staying 100% committed. Allow your urges to be there.
The goal is not to be able to have desire and react to it. The goal is not to have willpower. The goal is to extinguish the desire for things that you ultimately don’t want and that give you negative consequences in your life.
True happiness comes from desiring nothing, from not having any intense, unfulfilled desire.
It is very challenging to be satisfied and complete when you are always wanting more of something that never satisfies you.
The desire naturally occurring will be answered. The question is, what will it be answered with?
Trade immediate gratification for long term gratification.
Don’t satisfy desire with cheap substitutes.
This is how you learn to drink less. This is how you learn to no longer desire alcohol.
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