Explaining Away Unhappiness
I will be happy when I meet the love of my life.
I will be happy when I am thin.
I will be happy when I have more money.
We often get thinness or money or love, and the unhappiness is still there.
And then we’re really screwed.
Because now we are unhappy and hopeless.
So we gain weight and spend money and sabotage our relationships-so we have an explanation for our negative emotion.
If we believe our happiness comes from “out there”, we have to give our power away to whatever is out there.
And then we have to control it manically, so we don’t lose it.
Really, though, the only explanation for unhappiness is our mind.
That’s why you can find happy people living in poverty and miserable rich people.
It doesn’t matter what you have, weigh or who you have to love.
What matters is what you think.
There is no way around it.
Taking responsibility for happiness is where all your power is.
Happiness is a choice. You either choose it or you don’t. No explanation required.