Do You Want to Stop Overeating?
The reason you’re overweight is because you overeat. The reason you overeat is because you overdesire food.
The solution to this problem is to stop overdesiring food.
Before I explain how to stop overeating below, click the box below to get exclusive access to my free training and worksheet, which will help you put this information into action right away.
Deciding to Desire Food Less
When I ask my students in Self Coaching Scholars if they want to desire food less, to go through life using food only as fuel, most people say no.
Imagine the place where you struggle the most. Say, at a party or after work. Imagine going to that place and you have no overdesire for food.
I like to use the example of smoking. If you don’t smoke and you go somewhere where a lot of people are smoking, it doesn’t matter to you how many people are smoking, whether people offer you a cigarette, or what flavor or brand they’re smoking. None of it matters. If you don’t smoke, you’re not going to desire a cigarette at all.
You have to make the decision for yourself to want to desire food less.
Once you do, I can show you how.
However, if you’re unwilling to make that decision to desire it less, then it’s always going to be a struggle. You’ll always have to use willpower, and you’ll resist it. You’ll always struggle with the idea of food.
The reasons I hear the most from people not wanting to make the decision to give up their favorite foods are:
- “I just really like it.”
- “I love it.”
- “It’s part of my culture, family, and social life.”
- “It’s just so fun.”
There is nothing wrong with enjoying food. The problem is when you’re overweight, you’re enjoying food too much, to your detriment.
Ask yourself how much of your life’s joy comes from eating and overeating. Do you want to be dependent on food for your joy? If so, to what percentage?
I’ve had a client tell me that 90% of her life’s enjoyment comes from food. There’s no way she could just stop overeating. She was too dependent on food for pleasure.
Most of us mistake the pleasure experienced by eating for real internal joy. They’re not the same. Joy comes from within you when you have strong mental and emotional health. Feeling good from eating is pleasure seeking from outside of you.
Sugar and Flour Are like Cocaine
I want you to compare this to cocaine. It’s not natural to desire cocaine if you’ve never had it. However, once you’ve had cocaine and continue to have it, you will desire it very intensely.
The same is true for the most addictive foods—specifically, those with sugar and flour. You overdesire it because you’re used to having it, not because you actually need to desire it in your life.
If I said to you, “I love cocaine; it’s just so fun. I just really like it,” you would not accept that as a reason for me not to give it up.
When I ask whether you’re willing to let the foods go, insert cocaine. Start thinking about sugar and flour as the recreational drugs they are. See whether your reason makes sense for why you don’t want to desire food less.
Your desire for overeating is something you’ve created that you can stop.
Associating Food with Connection
Another stopping point for people is how they associate food with connection.
Take the example of cooking a huge meal for the holidays. You might say, “This is what I look forward to the most and where I connect with my family.”
If you enjoy the process of cooking, that is great. Nothing about that has to change.
It’s what you consume that has to change.
But I want to encourage you to think about how much time you’re spending thinking about food, especially around the holidays. What you’ll be cooking, when you’re going to eat next, how much you’re overeating, etc.
You don’t have to make the holidays about food. You can make them about something else. But you have to make that decision for yourself.
You can go through the entire holiday season without overdrinking and without overeating.
I used to think this would be torture and impossible. Now, I do it effortlessly. I don’t overeat, and I don’t overdrink.
What You Make Being Skinny Mean
Most people who want to lose weight associate being skinny with being hungry and deprived.
When you reduce your desire for food, for overeating, you don’t feel that way at all.
This is the secret to keeping weight off long term—treating the cause.
The cause of being overweight is overeating, caused by overdesiring food.
Ask yourself why you want food so much. When you know your reason, you can decide whether you want to change it.
Overdesiring food isn’t intrinsic and it’s 100% changeable.
The Key to Losing Weight
The key to losing weight is making the conscious choice to stop overdesiring food.
Once you do that, you can follow the steps I teach in Self Coaching Scholars, which is to stop eating sugar, flour, and snacks.
When you do this, you’ll eliminate cravings, resulting in eliminating the overdesire to eat. This is when you lose weight. And this is how you keep it off.
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