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Ep #40: Lessons Learned from Tony Robbins

On this episode of the Life Coach School podcast, it is again the time to talk about one of my teachers that has had a great impact on me. The week, we are talking about no other than one of the most popular American life-coaches and motivational speakers, Tony Robbins.

Tony is a motivational speaker, life-coach and a self-help author of books such as Unlimited Power, Unleash the Power Within and Awaken the Giant Within. He has also released a number of incredible audio and video programs that have helped countless people around the world to improve their lives dramatically.

Tony’s work has made a huge impact on me over the past 20 years and has affected my own teachings tremendously. Tony is great at making complex ideas about success, growth, focus, determination and commitment (among many others) simplified and truly easy to digest. Tune in to find out about some of these life-changing teachings. If you choose to practice them, I promise, you will be able to transform your life into an amazing masterpiece!

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What You will discover

  • Tony Robbins’ past works.
  • The importance of mastering decision making as a skill.
  • The difference between committing to a decision and committing to trying.
  • What role repetition plays in mastering a skill or anything else in your life.
  • The concept of pain vs. pleasure and how it drives our decisions.
  • How our consistent focus is related to our reality.
  • How to create a state of determination and commitment within yourself.
  • The questions successful people ask themselves.

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Episode Transcript:

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast where it's all about real clients, real problems and real coaching. Now, your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.

What the what? Episode number forty. That means for the past forty weeks I have recorded a podcast episode for y'all. That seems crazy. That is so many hours that I have sat here prepared a podcast, talked to you all and then gone to the comment section and written back to y'all. The guy that runs my podcast for me sent me an email; basically said that this past month we've had like forty-five thousand downloads which I can't even wrap my mind around. That is super cool to me it just seems like a really big number.

So many of you listen to the podcast, but I don't hear from you. Sometimes my comment section is like crickets. What are y'all doing? I think you're all subscribed and you just keep getting it, but I would love to hear from you, so know that. I'm not just saying that. I really want to hear from you even if you just say, "Hey, what's up? I listen to your podcast." Just let me know you're alive. There's forty-five thousand of you and I've heard from about twenty of you. I love to just touch base.

Anyway, today we are talking about lessons learned from Tony Robbins. Now, a lot of time when I bring up Tony Robbins name most people know who he is because he was so popular. I think it was in the '80's, right? With his big teeth and his infomercials. He had a program called Personal Power which of course I purchased and inhaled and repeatedly listened to. I love Tony's energy. I love what he teaches. He is literally, quite literally one of the most brilliant teachers I've ever had. No matter what you want to say about him, if you know his work and you've applied his work, you will agree with me. I have never met anyone who has really applied Tony's work that doesn't absolutely love his work. He's a little over the top. He's a little loud and he acknowledges that and talks about it which makes me laugh, but he backs it all up with crazy content, crazy smart content.

Tony has written some amazing books. He wrote a book called Unlimited Power. He wrote a book called Unleash the Power Within and he wrote Awaken the Giant Within. The book that I am most in love with is the book Awaken the Giant Within. It was the book that I probably studied the most. Listened to the most. Really appreciated so much because it was so cumulative of all of the work that he had done. His other books are good too, but I feel like this book really encompasses the other books within them. He's recently written a book called Money, all about money. He basically went through and studied all of the great ambassadors of our time. It's a pretty heavy book. It talks about investments, but he is able to simplify it in a way that is really amazing. I listened to it on audio book and I'm going to listen to it again. There is so much to be learned from that book and the way he makes it so relevant. That is one thing that Tony is really good at is making really complex ideas very simplified.

Now, I do want to offer that Tony Robbins uses neuro linguistic programming or NLP. It's basically a way of retraining your brain which, of course, I am totally fascinated with. There's many modern day coaches that use it. It really does work. It is to something I've had a big interest in learning. It's just not my thing, but it's definitely something worth looking into, I think, if you are kind of intrigued by it.

Most of what I am going to talk about today, most of what I am going to share with you is from Tony's book, Awaken the Giant Within and from his work with Personal Power, the program that I went through and what I learned from him.

Basically his mentor was Jim Roan who is amazing too and I highly recommend you look into the work that he's done. He's really the guy that taught me about goal setting. He's the one that really sold me on it and why I still feel fully 100% committed to always having goals. Because I have seen the power of what writing goals has done in my life. I was really in my early twenties when Tony first taught me about that. I have always written goals since then. I can go back and look at my goals that I had when I was really young. I can see how powerful it was for me to write them down and how almost every single one of them has come true because of hard work. Now, it didn't just come true because I wrote them down, but because I worked towards them.

I am going to go through and share. I wrote down a bunch of notes of things that I've learned from Tony. I want to share the most important lessons that I think he has to teach and that I have learned from him. I highly recommend his book. I will put the link to it in the show notes. Awaken the Giant Within and I also recommend his new book on money. If you've got a little energy, you've taken your vitamins and you are ready to read a heavy book. I also recommend you check out the audio books so I will put that link to autobahn audio books in the show notes as well.

All right, so the concepts that Tony teaches is he teaches, one of the concepts that he teaches is called State Management. That is basically how you can manage your physical physiology which is your state. The terminology that I would use is your emotional state. He teaches that you can really control that by controlling your physiology. He teaches about success conditioning. He teaches about personal rules, how we all have our own personal rules that we are unwilling to break and how important it is to know about what our rules are and to make them consciously. He teaches about quality questions. Tony Robbins is really my first teacher when it came to becoming a coach.

As coaches, our main tool is asking questions and inquiry. I taught you about that in episode ten, I believe it was, with Byron Katie. I will leave that in the show notes too. She really has the four questions and taught me how to do questions, but before I ever met Byron Katie I really learned that lesson from Tony Robbins. I learned the concept of the primary question and how important it is to know that the questions that you ask yourself will determine the quality of your thinking. He taught about leverage and how you can use leverage on yourself and then he talks about the concentration of power. Those are all the topics he talks about in Awaken the Giant Within, so if you are interested in learning more about those check out that book.

Let's go through and I am going to basically reiterate what his lesson is and then give you my thoughts on it. The first one is in your moments of decision your destiny is shaped. Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility. the hardest step in achieving anything is making a true commitment. That is basically five different quotes that I've put together from him that basically shares his beliefs on how important it is to make a decision. What is so interesting is I was just coaching one of my students on this today and talking about she really struggles with indecision; struggles with her inability to make decisions and how she plays around in this realm of, "I don't know", a lot and it seems like an innocent place to dwell, but, "I don't know", creates a block to your destiny.

According to what Tony says here it’s in your moments of decision your destiny is shaped. You can't argue with that. Think about all the decisions that you've made in your life. Those decisions have created your life, literally. Your decision of where you were going to go to school. Your decision of who you were going to marry or not marry. Your decision of whether you were going to have kids or not have kids. Your decision of where to live. Your decision of how to stay or not stay in your marriage. Where to work. All those decisions create your life and yet so many of us don't really think about decision making as a skill. As something that we can get good at. What I notice the most with people as they get older they stop making decisions. They let their decisions kind of make them without a conscious real consideration about what they want to do. I see that happen with people and then they start believing that they are at the effect of their life because they stop making decisions.

Making decisions is a skill. It is challenging. Right? We don't want to be wrong so we don't want to make decisions. Most of us don't embrace change so we just ride out whatever decisions we've made long ago. Think about some of the decisions you've made, where to live, what job to have, what couch you're sitting on. All of those decisions were made long ago and if you've become someone that doesn't want to make decisions anymore you are living with ten year old, twenty year old decisions.

Now, if you aren't growing in your life and your aren't evolving you may be very content not to make decisions, but I want you to consider that the more decisions you make in your life, and I am not saying you have to make a decision to change. You may re-decide, I would choose this house again, I would choose this husband again, and I would choose this couch again, right? Maybe you wouldn't.

Maybe if you were going to start again you wouldn't chose any of it again. Are you willing to live with that old decision or do you want to make a new one. Right? It is something to really consider as you chose to move and grow in your life. In your moments of decision your destiny is shaped.

Now, the last part what he says, the hardest step in achieving
anything is making a true commitment. I really have seen this in my students recently. In this past year. Is that most of us don't make a commitment to doing something no matter what. We've talked a lot about this on this podcast. People make decisions to try something. They make a decision to learn about something, but they don't commit to completing it. They don't commit to doing the program 100%. They don't commit to achieving the result. They commit to trying, to considering, to doing it until it doesn't feel good anymore.

The difference is when you truly commit you have made the hardest choice. Then, it eliminates any other option. The way the he says is you cut yourself off from any other possibility. I will achieve this result no matter what. I am cutting myself off from any other possibility. That changes everything. If some of the things I say to my students sometimes is what if I gave you a hundred thousand dollars to do this. What if I gave you a million dollars? What would you be doing differently in order to achieve that result? What if your life depended on it? Then you would commit to it no matter what. What would be different? Understanding are you truly committed to what you want or are you just enjoying the idea that it's a possibility. Really tell yourself the truth on that one.

The other quote that he has says, "Information is power when acted upon." I love this quote from him because you have to remember that information in and of itself is nothing. We are in the information age. We are so saturated with information. I know for me information is so easily accessible that I feel like I just am full of information. I have different ideas. If I want to find out how to do something. If I want to find out some research on something. If I want to find out how something started or what something ... Anything. It's available to me at my fingertips. I have taken so many classes and read so many books and heard so many theories. None of that means anything. I have had so many students go through my classes. So many people that have learned the concepts of coaching that didn't act upon them.

I personally have learned so many things and have never acted upon the things I've learned. The power doesn't come from the information. The power doesn't come from listening to this podcast. The power doesn't come from reading a book. The power comes from did you apply it. I want to offer that the sooner you apply something after learning it the more likely you are to keep applying it. If you learn something like, "Oh, that is an interesting concept. I like that. I am going to play around with that concept. I am going to be entertained by it", that is very different than applying it to your life immediately and continuously applying it and seeing its affect in your life.

Another quote from Tony that I love is, "Repetition is the mother of skill." Often when I am training new coaches they're afraid to repeat themselves when they are working with their clients. They are afraid to teach something and then teach it again. One thing, if I've learned anything being a coach and a teacher, it is that repetition and re-teaching and offering different examples and teaching again is how people will really learn something. You can't teach something to someone once. You can't learn something once or do something just once and feel like you are going to be a master at it.

If you want to learn how to do a head stand, let's say. Something we do in yoga. All right? We do head stands. If you want to lean to do a head stand…if you try to do a head stand ten times a day every day of the year you are going to be better at doing a head stand at the end of the year than you were at the beginning. In fact, you are probably going to be amazing at doing head stands. Right? Because repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition, repetition. If you want to lean the model that I teach, the more models that you do, the more times you practice it the better you are going to get at it. If that is how you develop every skill is by practicing it, practicing it, practicing it.

Now, you need to practice it well and you need to practice it correctly. You don't want to keep practicing doing something in a way that doesn't work. One of the things that I say is what are you practicing all of the time because that is what you are getting better at. Are you practicing over eating? Are you practicing yelling at you kids? Are you practicing not exercising? Because whatever you are practicing is what you are getting good at. It is what your brain is getting efficient at. A lot of people think that, "Oh, if I am just doing, if I am just not exercising that is not costing me anything", but really you are doing something. You are learning how to not exercise. That is what you're practicing and that is what you are getting good at. That is for everything you do within your day. The secret to success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. What you link pain to and what you link pleasure to shapes your destiny. It is not actual pleasure that drives us, but our belief, our sense of certainty that somehow taking a certain action will lead to pleasure. Most people focus on the short term pleasure and therefore create long term pain for themselves.

Okay. I really, really, really want you to listen to this. It is not actual pleasure that drives us, but our belief, our sense of certainty that somehow taking a certain action will lead to pleasure. The reason why I want you to pay attention is I know so many of you listening associate pleasure to over eating. Yet, client after client after client that I take through the process of really evaluating what overeating is like for them realize that there is very little pleasure in over eating. Very little and, in fact, it is usually the opposite, but it doesn't matter.

This is why, because it is not actual pleasure that drives us but our belief, our sense of certainty that taking the action of over eating will lead to pleasure. When you associate pleasure to doing something you will want to do it more. When you associate pain to doing something you'll want to do it less, so really think about that concept.

Most of us associate pain to eating less food and most of us associate pleasure to eating more food. Being able to eat whatever we want when we want, but when you really break it down you will see, especially your physical pleasure is the exact opposite. Eating when you're hungry and stopping when you are sated is the perfect equilibrium for your body. It is when your body feels the best. When you over eat your body feels bloated and uncomfortable. When you under eat it feels agitated and empty. When you eat only when you are hungry and stop when you are full that is the ideal state of pleasure for your body. It is a full equilibrium. Why doesn't that matter? Why don't we all want to feel that way all of the time? Light and fueled. It is because we have associated through every commercial we've ever watched and every fast food we've ever tasted to associate extreme pleasure to eating food and over eating food. It doesn't mean that that's the truth really when we evaluate it, but it's our association.
It is what you link pain to that you will avoid and what you link pleasure to that you will created. What Tony teaches is that it is so important to link pleasure to the long term results you want in your life. To link pleasure to, let's say you want to save money, how do you link pleasure to that. If you want to eat only when you are hungry how do you associate pleasure to that and really consciously doing that so that every single time you're rewarding yourself for doing something that gives your pleasure. You are offering yourself pleasure for doing a pleasure thing. I remember one of the things that Tony taught that I thought was so fascinating was linking pleasure and linking pain to things. One of the things that he has offered, and I think he offers it in this book is, if you promised yourself that any time you over ate anything you would take a bite of canned Alpo dog food, if you made that commitment to yourself. You can over eat anything you want, but if you do you also have to take a scoop of Alpo dog food. Therefore you're associating pain to over eating. He says if you do it repeatedly and you really honor that commitment and you are really willing to do it then you will train your brain to associate so much pain to over eating that you literally will lose the desire to over eat.

That is kind of his philosophy which I think is so fascinating. It is like when somebody is told if you don't lose weight you are going to die, literally going to die. All of a sudden they have associated over eating with this tremendous fear of dying and that is why a lot of people are able to lose weight at that point. Sometimes it takes them all the way to that point. Then they immediately associate with so much more ... The same with smoking. Like my mother-in-law. She smoked her whole life and was unable to quit until they basically told her, "You cannot or you will die. You have cancer. You cannot do it." She quit cold turkey and that was the end of it. Never even a question and she hadn't been able to stop her whole life. That is kind of his theory of what he's associating, so think about the things you really want and do you associate a lot of pain to getting them. Those associations can be changed. His work is all about making sure you are associating a lot of pleasure to what it is you want long term in your life and associating a lot of pain to the things that prevent you from getting there.

His next quote is, "Your behavior is not the result of your ability, but the state you are in in this moment. Really important to remember and this is what I teach as well that your feelings create your actions. Not necessarily your ability. If you believe you can do something you are going to take a completely different action that is based on your ability versus if you don't believe you can do something. I see it all the time. Many of my students believing they can't do something when ultimately I've seen them already do it and they can do it, but they are holding themselves back.

Whatever we focus on becomes our reality. I really believe this and teach this a lot. Actually, all of my teachers that I have discussed with you here on the podcast and the ones I am going to discuss with you in the future, all of them believe that what you focus on becomes your reality. Remember the brain can only focus on so much and what it focuses on is what it will create because what it focuses on creates your thoughts, which create your feelings, which created your actions and ultimately your result. He says focus consistently on where you want to go. Not on where you don't want to go. If you focus on your problems, if you focus on where you don't want to go, those are the thoughts you are going to be thinking. You've got to be in a determined state in order to succeed.

One of the things that Tony teaches is that you can create emotion with your physiology. You can get yourself into a physical state of determination. That is going to be much more likely to help you create the result you want. I teach it a little, slightly different that you really have to work on your mind to create that sense of determination.

Either way the feeling of determination, the feeling of commitment is what ultimately will get you the result you want, so think about your own life right now. How often do you feel determined? How often do you feel committed? Do you practice feeling determined and committed? Because those are two emotions that are high in currency and they don't cost anything in terms of money, but they cost in terms of practicing feeling them. The more determined you are the more likely you are going to succeed in your life and get your results. It seems like common sense, but when you apply it to yourself can you see the results you want in your life and can you see how your lack of determination may be the reason you are not getting there? What would it take for you to be more determined to get those results you really want?

All you really want in life is to change how you feel. This is really similar to the teaching of Abraham which basically says that anything you want in your life is because of how you think it will make you feel in the getting of it. The question is do you know how to feel good and do you know how to feel bad? Now, the do you know how to feel bad is me. I am kind of adding that in there because I teach that you need to know how to feel bad without letting that bad feeling direct your action. If you are willing to feel something and you are willing to find its cause you are much more likely to react to it without a conscious decision to react to it. A lot of us have negative emotion because we aren't even aware of what we are feeling, so do you know how to feel good? Do you know how to generate positive emotion for yourself? Because if you do you'll be able to direct your action more consciously. Do you know how to feel bad? Can you direct yourself to react or not react based on how you feel?

His next quote is, "Our questions determine our thoughts." Successful people just ask better questions. For example, a successful person may ask themselves, "How can I get this done? What are the steps to get this done? When will I achieve this? What help do I need? How can I figure this out? What resources can I tap into to make sure this is completed?" Someone who is unsuccessful may ask a question like, "Why can't this work for me? Why can't I do this? Why am I so stupid? Why am I so lazy? Why is there something wrong with me? Why don't I get what other people do?" Notice how those questions are obviously going to give you very different thoughts to think versus the successful questions. Think about the questions that you are asking yourself and are they the questions of a successful person who is determined to achieving what they ultimately want in their lives.

One of the questions that Tony taught me that I really love is, "What is great about this problem?" Any problem in your life you can ask that question to and I have to tell you that I haven't found a problem yet that doesn't have something great in it. If you train your brain to look for the positive, to look for the great things in seemingly un-great things you will have trained your brain what to focus on. You will become a much more positive person if you train your brain in that way.

Now, what is really interesting is as I was searching for this podcast and rereading a lot of Tony's work, one of the things that he talks about that I had kind of forgotten about that I am kind of re-intrigued to study some more is the words you consistently use will determine how you feel. Now, I teach that your thoughts determine how you feel, but what he's talking about is the quality of the words you use. The quality of your vocabulary. I thought that was so interesting. A lot of times I will talk to my students about how to answer the question, "How are you?" If you answer the question, "Fine, I'm fine", without even thinking about it that is what you actually will fine as you answer it. How does fine feel? Is that how you want to feel? Is that the answer you want to have or do you want to feel amazing, incredible or awesome? What are the words that you consistently use in your vocabulary? Are they positive? Are they energy creating words or are you using flat words like, "Oh, another day. Fine. Yeah." It is like the kids in the car after school, "Mm hm (affirmative) " What words do you want to use to describe your life? What words do you want to use to describe yourself? To describe your kids? To describe how you are? How your life is? Really think about that. Research what are your words. When you use those words what kind of energy do they create.

I think what I am going to do is I think I am going to do an in-depth study on what he teaches on this and then I am going to create a whole podcast on how to use words to change your life. Because what I am really teaching there is how to use different thoughts. How to use different words in your thoughts. As I am talking about this I am thinking about writers and how every writing class I have ever taken is, it is funny because I always have a problem with grammar in the writing classes and the content is always great, but they have to go through and completely rewrite it because the grammar is always horrible, but anyway, you have a sentence that says the cow walked to the fence and what I've learned in writing classes is you need to use more descriptive words to liven it up a little bit. The cow walked to the fence is very boring, but if it's the beautiful sacred cow sauntered to the magical diamond fence. Now all of a sudden I am like, "Whoa", I am much more interested in this sentence that I was the other one. That is kind of what we want to do with our thinking. Can we make our thoughts so they are more compelling so we want to think them more so we raise up our energy and we get a little bit more interested? Get a little bit more curious about ourselves and our lives and how we tell the story of our life really matters. The words that we use. If we describe our lives as, "Well, it's just another day. It is just a series of days strung together." That is one way of describing your life or if you say, "It's just one magical hour after another." That is another way to describe your life. What are the words you want to use? I am going to do an in-depth study and I promise that it will be a podcast that is coming up soon.

Now, the last part of what I am going to tell you about what Tony taught me is create a compelling future. Tony taught me about thinking about my future and thinking about it a way that propelled me forward. That was compelling enough that I knew I would have to grow into it. That I knew that there was so many exciting things out beyond me in the future that it kept me wanting to move. It made me want to move a little bit faster so I could get there sooner. He is also the first one that taught me the concept of massive action. Now, I have adapted it a little bit, but the way that Tony talks about massive action I think is so hilarious because he will say, someone will say, "I've tried everything." He will say, "How many things have you tried?" They will be like, "Three." I have done this so many times with my own students. They will say, "I have tried everything to lose weight." I'll say, "How many diets?" They will say, "Every single one of them." I am like, "Name them. Name every single diet that you've tried", and it is like five. It is definitely not every single one. How we exaggerate when it comes to the effort that we've taken and most of us take very little action in our lives. Most of us need to increase our action tenfold, a hundred fold before we are ever going to get the results we want in our lives. I think Tony really taught me how to be an action taker.

I have since learned more about what it means to take massive action. It doesn't mean that you work so hard that you can't function, but it does mean that you take enough action to give yourself a chance at getting the result you want and how setting goals that ignite you and excite you. It can make a difference between a dull life and a really exciting, anticipation feeling when you go through your life because the best is yet to come. Thinking about that. Everything out there. My future is going to be way better than what is going on now. Not in a way that takes you out of your present moment, but in a way that makes your present moment better because it creates that excitement in your life. He has about three chapters in that book all on goal setting. I highly recommend. I actually went to an event with Tony in Fiji. He owns a beautiful resort in Fiji. I went there, I think it was for seven days about twenty years ago. Sat down, it was called Date With Destiny, I sat down in this beautiful Fijian hut overlooking the ocean and we worked on what it means to really create goals that get you so excited you can't possibly not take action. I highly recommend you read that section in his book. I teach a lot of his goal setting concepts when I teach goal setting, but he takes it into a much deeper level. It is an area that you're interested in I highly recommend that you do it.

Now, I seriously could go on and talk about Tony. The amount of material that he has out there is really, really exceptional. I really want to recommend to all of you that you study his work. One of the things that he says that I think is the most compelling to me and has been is when we went to the Date With Destiny he made us memorize this quote, it was twenty years ago, that we had to say. I remember the first part of it basically said, "Now, I am the power. Now, I am the power." I really integrated that. The last part of it was, "Step up", step up step up, we had to say that three times. I think for me what that has meant is am I stepping up into the best version of myself. Am I willing to take that step into the best version of myself and am I recognizing that now I am the power? Tony says, "I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece." Do you feel like you are making yourself a masterpiece? Now, if you don't feel that way this is not an invitation to feel guilty about it, but it is an invitation to decide, "Yes, I want to be able to look back on my life and say, "That is my masterpiece. That is what I did with my life and I'm so proud", because time's a ticking for most of us. It is never too late and we can always step up. We can always claim our power and we can always be improving and growing and creating a compelling future. I will always thank Tony Robbins for teaching me that at a very young age because I have used it every day since. I feel like the compelling future that I made back then is the future I am living now, is the present that I'm living now. I wouldn't have this life that I have now had I not set those goals back them, so thanks Tony. I will always be a student of Tony Robbins and I highly recommend that you join me.
I'll talk to you guys all next week. Bye-bye.

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  1. Brooke, as with all of your podcasts, I LOVE this one! I listen to them over and over again to get all the juicy lessons, and this one is no exception. You keep turning me onto amazing teachers. Thank you!

    1. Love every one of Brooke’s podcasts! Thank you for showing me how to change my thoughts so I can help others do the same! You are a blessing!

    2. I am enjoying this podcast very much. My husband recently passed away and I find myself with no direction. I started listing to the widow’s podcast which was helpful at the time. She referenced you and here I am. I’m looking at your seminar and get stopped by the charge per month and the required year commitment. I’m not ready for either so guess the podcast will have to do. I’m not sleeping well so I listen as I drift off to sleep. Before my life took this turn of care taking and death I was in the fitness industry. Coaching seems to be what I have been apart of without knowing it by that name. I’ve gained strength and new awareness in many areas listening to you. Thank you

      1. Hi Christine,

        Thank you for sharing with us. Glad to hear you are finding some comfort in the tools Brooke teaches on her podcast.


  2. Hi Brooke,

    I recently found your podcast and am deeply in love with it! I’m a recently certified wellness coach and was looking for more education during my long commute. I work a corporate job during the day and coach clients in the evenings and weekends. I’m excited getting into my car knowing that I’ll be listening to you teach me something new.

    I enjoyed this podcast on Tony Robbins and have ordered the book you suggested.

    Thanks again for all that you do and the material that you provide.


    1. Happy Friday Brooke!

      I am a frequent listener to your podcasts. I look forward to every Thursday when I get to have my weekly dose of inspiration. I really enjoyed your podcast this week and it was ironic timing because I just watched Tony Robbins’ TED talk yesterday. I guess something in the universe is telling me that he is supposed to be an important teacher in my life right now. So… I purchased his audible book “Awaken the Giant Within” and I am greedily consuming all of the lessons that are available to me there.

      You have helped me to take massive action in my lifeand I am planning a major work transition in the next couple of months. My challenge is that I have to wait for about six weeks before I can turn in my notice and start on my new path. Shoring up my financial cushion for transition, and other planning takes a bit of time.

      Do you have any advice for people who have committed to massive change and are in a bit of a flux state? I’m trying really hard to live up to the commitments in my current job (and oh, by the way, trying to enjoy my life right now as it is) but I’m having a hard time staying focused and energized because I’m so eagerly anticipating my next opportunity.

      1. Hi Michelle,

        Remember that whatever you are feeling right now is because of how you are thinking right now.

        You are believing that your future opportunity will make you happier than your current one, but truly it’s only your mind that determines that.

        It’s a great opportunity to practice as you are. It’s a skill to develop!


  3. Hi Brooke,
    Avid listener but poor responder, saying, “I’m out here, one of your 45,000 listeners” who is learning life changing skills with every podcast! I really wanted to respond to the Steven Pressfield episode, as he inspired me so much as well, but vapor locked thinking….where in the world do I ever start?! There is so so so wonderful much! And that’s how I feel about all your podcasts and attended your webinar, whereupon, yep, same feeling! Good stuff. Heartfelt thanks!

  4. Great podcast Brooke. You inspire and motivate every week through your podcast and everyday through other resources you have made available. I recently discovered your podcast and am already caught up on every episode. Thanks for sharing, you are so wonderful.

  5. Brooke, great episode (as usual!). Can you give an example of how you have answered the question, “What’s great about this problem?” Thanks!

    1. Hi Maggie!


      My son recently got a c- on a test he studied very hard for.

      The only problem was my thought about it.

      What is great about this problem?

      My son cares that he got that grade. He cares about his schoolwork.

      He asked me for help.

      I am able to help him and want to help him.

      He has an opportunity to learn about working hard and results.

      Hope that helps!


  6. Hi Brooke,

    I so look forward to your podcasts every week, and have found them inspiring and enlightening.

    I do think I might suffer from “self-development syndrome” however, which is where I read and listen to every book, article, ted talk and podcast out there, without putting much of it into practice!

    The obstacles that come up are thoughts that I will be making my life worse, not better, if I put myself into uncomfortable situations. When I say “uncomfortable”, I mean mentally uncomfortable, and this is the one part of your teaching that I am curious about, because I don’t really associate uncomfortable feelings with physical sensations or vibrations in my body. For me, I don’t avoid taking action because of uncomfortable physical sensations(like racing heart, squeamish stomach etc), I avoid taking action because of the upsetting belief that I will be making my life worse, not better. It feels like a protective instinct, but when I say “feel”, what I really mean is I believe it. If I make a fool of myself and fail and get rejected, then people might not give me any help, support or the things I need in the material world anymore. This is reality, and I’m not quite sure how to convince myself that it’s ok to take risks that might effect me materially.

    This is why I think I am always in search of more information, hoping it will give me the answer.

    If you can do a podcast for all of us “SDS” sufferers who are secretly afraid of taking risks and ending up destitute and vulnerable, that would be great!

    Thanks so much for your generosity in providing all the materials you do.


  7. Hi Brooke,
    I love your podcasts, thank you for sharing good & positive thoughts and feelings!

  8. Hi Brooke,
    You mention in your Podcast that you’d love people to check in and say hello. I have been listening since you started and I have found your Podcast to be life-changing. I find myself going back to old episodes when I come upon a certain feeling or problem I’m experiencing. I always find I feel more peaceful and positive after listening. I use your Podcast to help me navigate the many thoughts I have going on in my brain and how they dictate how I feel. It’s amazing the control we can gain when we learn to manage these thoughts. I have recommended your Podcast to a few friends, and they also love it-thank you.

    I am a 42 yr. young mom of awesome boys and have a terrific husband. I teach fitness classes, am a personal stylist as well as a lover of all things healthy and inspiring. My interest in psychology/coaching has been strong ever since I was a young child, so I am specifically drawn to your Podcast and use it in my daily life to help myself and those who are dear to me. Thank you for what you do!


    1. Carolyn,

      Yes! I really appreciate you taking the time to come here and check in with me.

      It means so much that you have been with me from the beginning and that you have learned so much from listening.

      I also love “meeting” you and learning more about your wonderful life.

      Thank you!


  9. First time listener here! I’m looking into availing myself of your training and thought I’d check out a podcast as a way of collecting more information. Found myself hurriedly scribbling down notes and gems… And am now excited that there’s already 39 more of these to listen to! Great work… I look forward to learning more about you and your program.

  10. Hey Brooke!

    I love your podcasts! I might be a cricket but I want you to know that I started listening last summer and immediately felt a connection. You totally get it and your podcast hits the core of my personal journey. Thursdays are my favorite day to commute to work because I get to listen to a new podcast! It’s like your gift to me every week. Thank you! I listen to your podcasts over and over. On days that are especially challenging, I find a podcast that addresses my current struggle and your words inspire me, lift me up, and get me to think about my challenge in a new way.

    I love your saying, “So what if I’m a peach? Not everyone likes peaches!” It’s gotten me through some really uncomfortable times with difficult people unnecessarily questioning my professionalism and my integrity.

    Not everyone has to like me but I do need to like myself and I do need to be kind to myself. I see the good in everyone else yet when I think of myself it’s with a hateful, nasty, and vengeful mind. I’m tired of those thoughts. I’m 44 and it’s time to release them because they serve no purpose and aren’t true. Having kindness and compassion towards myself is a huge struggle for me. I’ve spent my whole life beating myself up and hating myself. I’m not sure why I feel like a terrible person because deep down I know I’m not. I’m my own worst enemy.

    Because of your podcast coaching, I’ve started to think of myself as a friend and instead of refusing to acknowledge myself in the mirror, I give myself a hey there….it’s you! Or when something’s wrong I ask myself what’s the matter love? I hope you can share some of your insights on future podcasts as to how a person can learn to like themselves and treat themselves kindly.

    I got your self coaching 101 book and have started to experiment with the model. In all honesty, I’m afraid of what I’ll uncover but I want to learn how to feel my emotions and manage my thoughts.

    Thanks for the amazingly thought provoking podcasts. Your fresh perspective, light heartedness, positive attitude, sincerity and unsugar-coated honesty are appreciated by me. : )


    PS – I love it when you’re giggly! You make me smile and laugh!!

    1. Hi Monica!

      I really appreciate you taking the time to write me such a thoughtful comment. It means so much.

      I love hearing how you are applying the work.

      I will most definitely talk more about liking yourself and treating yourself kindly.

      But there is not magic there, love, it just takes practice.

      Start now. 😉


  11. Hey Brooke, avid listener & future student, writing because you said so, and it couldn’t have been at a more perfect time! Thanks to your influence, I have decided to formalize my personal coaching career (have always been one.

    For the last four months I have listened to both you and Tony Robbins and learned so much. Although I have also had lessons from Les Brown, Byron Kady, Tolle, etc, yours and Tony’s resonated most.

    I had been trying to synthesize the two of you for a couple months now, so episode 40 really hit the mark! I agree with everything you say about Tony, and the juxtaposition of your relationship, and what you took from his teachings, really allows me to understand the mix of both your methods for myself. Now if I can only decide whose school to attend…..Cheers!


    1. Hi Darryl,

      Thank you so much for coming here and checking in. It means a lot.

      You can’t go wrong with either training. They are both awesome.

      Best of luck to you and congrats on your decision to become a coach.


  12. Hi Brooke –
    Thank you so much for sharing yourself in these podcasts, I love them! I listened to TR today and loved the pleasure/ pain concept. It made me realize that the times I have had great success I tied both pleasure and pain to the outcome, walking down the aisle thin and getting into the college of my dreams. Now I don’t seem to have these types of outcomes as possible, I want to look better in a bathing suit and life my lifes calling, but these are not getting me to be 100% committed. So every day I seem to be trying but getting no where and I am not making the progress I want. Should I search for a bigger goal? Focus on the steps I am taking? I want to get to the vision where I don’t see failure as an option and I don’t know how I did that before but cannot see it now. Would love your thoughts.

    Thank you!

    1. Hi Amy,

      It sounds like you need a goal that gets your passion going. Being specific and clear in both your goal and in your plan will make it easier.

      Set a very specific two week goal-get some early success and that should help.

      Thanks for posting here!


  13. Hey Brooke!

    I just wanted to drop in and tell you I have recently found your podcasts and started listening from the beginning-and am loving them! I too am similar to some of the other commenters in that I can take in a lot of information but have yet to act on things and do some massive action. 🙂 My goal for this week is to write down 25 things that I want and get that list going, and i would like to pick one or two goals and do some work on my thoughts around those goals.

    You have a way of explaining things that makes me feel like wow, what a dumb ass I have been! For example I was just listening to the podcast about how to fail and your example of going to the grocery store and being detoured by a red light and giving up made me crack up, but I realized that was totally what I was doing in my own life with some of my goals (cue whiney this is too hard voice hahaha).

    You are able to make me think about things in a new way and I really appreciate that! ! I can’t wait to work my way through the rest of the podcasts.


    1. Hi Lesley!

      Yay! Awesome. I am so glad you came here and let me hear from you and see your face.

      I appreciate you both listening and applying what I am teaching to your life.

      Go get it!


  14. Hi Brooke,
    Love your energy, love your podcasts. You encouraged us to respond…so here goes!

    I am a career Navy girl with 6 years until retirement….dreaming and planning for the next chapter. My husband and I recently attended a John Maxwell Dream building seminar , not expecting much more than to walk away with some goals for 2015. Nope, it couldn’t be that simple. We gave birth to a Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG). Recently married, we are still learning where our passions/dreams/gifts all intersect. As a Navy Chaplain, my husband is a gifted counselor with the goal of one day running a bed and breakfast. Me…well, I have been a self-help junkie my entire life. Fascinated by relationships and people, I have a passion for listening and guiding. So we have been buzzing the past month with opening a B&B and offering coaching retreats. Neither of us are coaches (not certified – yet) and neither have owned a business. We have 6-8 years ..wheww! Having never officially been coached I began seeking books and podcasts …so thankful I have found you. I have connected with your style and am so excited to put in the work to be coached!

    This Tony Robins podcast struck a chord with me…I followed and read Tony years ago…love him and the lessons. I just never applied any of it! Your quote: ” I feel like the compelling future that I made back then is the future I am living now, is the present that I’m living now. I wouldn’t have this life that I have now had I not set those goals back them, so thanks Tony.” Well that is how I feel today, the decisions I make now….the commitment I make NOW will be my future. I don’t want to say to myself “A year from now you will wish you started today.” So, as you had thanked Tony, I am thanking you, Brooke. 🙂


    1. Wow Lynne!

      Thank you so much for this post and your thoughtful reply.

      I love your idea of a BB for coaching retreats. I would love that!! I know many coaches who would also love it.

      You and your husband are welcome to come get your certification through The Life Coach School any time!

      Much love to you!


  15. Inspired by your podcast I am listening to Tony Robbins audio of Unleash the Power Within. He keeps saying that if we are not happy all the time it is because we are not creating that state.

    I lived by that thought for such a long time and really beat myself up when I was not in a happy state. I found so much relief when I first heard you say we are not supposed to be happy all the time and in fact probably about 50% of the time you will not feel happy.

    To me that was a gift of acceptance -so thank you!!!

  16. Hey Brooke,
    Thank you for all the time and energy you put into the podcasts. I get so much from them.
    I am working my way through much of your content and I pontificate on this the most….how do I “commit” with grit yet still be kind to myself for mistakes. My perfectionism flares up and I feel like I am being counterproductive.
    Nothing but good things for you,

  17. After listeni g to this episode, this is the Thoughtful Mind quote I received in my email today.

    “One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.”

    ― Tony Robbins

    Thanks for sharing your life and knowledge with us Brooke!

  18. Hi Brooke,

    Four years ago, I had a traumatic experience in which my writing played a central role. Since that time and as a result, I have associated writing with pain, rather than with the pleasure I had once felt and received from the process of expression. The thing is, writing is something I truly loved to do, and I believed that one day, I could be a published author. It was a dream with real potential, and a goal I was excited to pursue. All of that got buried in an instant, but today, listening to your podcast on Tony Robinson, I have – finally – become fully aware of the damage I have been inflicting on myself for all these years.

    A friend only recently suggested I listen to The Life Coach School, and in a matter of weeks, the first 39 episodes have been changing my life, bit by bit. For that, I thank you. Because of you and your generous, loving, sincere teachings, I am getting a handle on the depression and lack of motivation that have been “my story” for far too long. I cry as I write this, but for the first time in a long time, they are tears of hope.

    I may be a writer at heart, but words could never do justice to describe the gift you are giving me, and it’s with so much anticipation I look forward to listening to the next 40+ episodes.

    With love,

    1. Hi EJ,

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and for letting us know the impact Brooke’s podcast has had on your life. Brooke reads and appreciates these types of comments.

      Carina | The Life Coach School

  19. Hello from Brazil! I’m totally amazed by your work and podcasts…I have just started studying about being a life coach, and i found you while searching about “best life Coaches in the world”! How to get a certification? do you have an online program of certification? thanks zillions for sharing your wisdom, your amazing! 🙂

  20. I shouldn’t be surprised anymore but here I am again, surprised. I have listened to all of Brooke’s podcasts and often re-listen to podcasts. My surprise comes from how much I gain from each “listening experience” if you will. Depending on where I am and where my clients are in life, different things jump out. I have two clients who are struggling with their goals and BOOM, here’s this podcast speaking to the importance of (1) making a decision and then (2) committing no matter what. No. Matter. What. Brooke’s words fell like pieces of gold into my ears and I am armed with energy and insight for my coaching sessions later today. THANK YOU @Brooke, Tony Robbins, and LCS!! I have energy zinging from my heels up to the top of my head – bring it!

  21. hello!
    how can I help a person who is not interested in evolving … is aware that he is negativist and stressed but does not want to change .. he says that that’s the way he is and can not change .. can such a person be helped? what determines a person to be interested in change?

    1. Hi Georgiana,

      Thank you for your question. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. Stay tuned. In the meantime, try listening to this video, The Manual.


  22. This is only the second podcast of yours that I’ve listened to, but wow these are powerful topics. Thanks so much! I struggle with decision-making all the time, and so often spend time “trying,” and thinking about things, rather than deciding to DO!

  23. Brooke I have been listening to you for 2 weeks now. I first heard about you from Amy Poterfield’s podcast. Thank you so much, I am now taking action to make my life a masterpiece.

    1. Thank you for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it. Glad to hear her podcast has been helping you during this time in your life. –Felicia

  24. Hi Brooke!
    This is a years old episode now, but it’s as far as I’ve gotten since my sister sent me a link to your first episode and I started listening. I hope you will still get this comment. You ask all the time for feedback and comments so here you go.
    Your material has deeply resonated with me and I have really being working to apply your teachings in my life. I’m not very good at it or consistent yet, but I keep coming back to it and practicing more and more. I’m especially intrigued by the concept of other people’s opinions of you not having anything to do with you, and allowing them to have their opinions without making it mean something bad or negative to you. I’ve spent my whole life very worried about what everyone thinks of me at all times. Unfortunately, it seems I’ve unintentionally passed this way of thinking on to my 10 year old daughter. She started 5th grade this year and it has been one major meltdown after another because one or another of the girls in her grade said this to, or about her. I’m doing my best to advise her and help her through it. But I feel completely unqualified to help. For one because I spent my entire adolescence as a common target of this same behavior, and two because I’ve only begun to work on my own thought processes regarding other people’s opinion of me. I’m wondering if you have any advise for someone who is themselves working to apply your teachings to their life who wants to cultivate this kind of confidence, reasoning and positive thinking in their young child. I’ve considered having her listen to episodes with me, but worry that the subject matter may be too mature for her to stay interested in.
    Thank you so much for all the hard work you do to share your methods and guidance with all of us. I hope to hear from you soon.
    — Jamie

    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave your feedback Jamie. I’m so glad you have enjoyed the Podcast. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. Stay tuned! –Felicia

  25. I have a question. I loved loved loved what was taught today about linking a positive results to long term goals and negative results to things we are trying to change. Like that scoop of Alpo dog food if you over eat. This really resonates with me but do you have examples of how to link positives to a goal.
    I am working on a business and I keep getting stuck because I associate so much negative to learning the skills to do the work that needs to be done. What are some ideas of things to tie my end of year goal too? I can’t seam to get out of the negative. Thanks, April

    1. Hi April, Thank you for your question. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. In the meantime, I recommend listening to Ep #155: Negativity. –Felicia

  26. I am one of probably way more than 45,000 listeners by now. I listener daily and absolutely love everything you talk about. Thanks again Brooke!