The Power of an Unanswered Text
Have you ever texted someone nervously, worried about how they might respond?
And they didn’t.
Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
Why is this so awful?
Because you’re left alone with your thoughts. Scary.
I have coached so many clients through this sort of “no response trauma”.
Here is a sampling of what can go on in a mind without supervision:
She doesn’t like me.
I am not good enough for this contract.
I’ll never get hired.
I think he’s cheating on me.
She is so mad at me. I knew I shouldn’t have said anything.
What the hell is wrong with me? I wish I could take that back.
Nine times out of ten, these thoughts are pure lies. No truth to them at all.
It’s just our mind running wild like a toddler breaking glass objects. Dangerous.
It just needs supervision. Deliberate and conscious thought.
Because if you’re like my last client, who literally was sobbing because her friend had not replied to her text, you’re going to need some perspective.
And, if you are anything like her, you will realize the pain was all self-induced. Especially because she hadn’t pressed send.