Video: Causal Coaching
Join in as Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School talks about Causal Coaching and why we treat the cause of our clients' problems, not just the symptoms.
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Hi, this is Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School and in this video I'm going to talk to you about the concept of Causal Coaching.
Now this is a concept that we really abide at The Life Coach School. There are many coaches out there and there are many schools out there that have different forms and different styles of coaching, but we call the type of coaching that we do here at the school Causal Coaching. What that means is we treat the cause of all of our clients' problems and not just the symptom.
Now what do I mean by that? Your clients are going to come to you with all sorts of issues. They're going to come to you with problems, and one of the first temptations you're going to have as a coach is to want to solve that problem. That's how our brains are programmed. They're programmed to fix things.
If a client comes to you with a problem, you're going to want initially to offer suggestion. Oh, this is what you could do to solve that, or why don't you just try it this way? That's not something that we teach or do with any of our clients. First of all, we never offer advice. There is no way that we could ever know what's best for a client. Only the client has the answers of what's best for them.
What we need to do when a client presents us with a problem is find the cause, and the way that we do that is by asking why. Why do you have this problem? Why is this a problem? Now, what we teach is that everything in our life starts with thinking. Before we ever feel anything in our life, we think it first because all of our thoughts cause our emotions. Before we ever do anything in our life, we think about it first. We don't just do something haphazardly, right? We have to think about it. That creates a feeling which drives the action.
When you have a client that presents with an action, maybe it's a behavior that they're taking or an inaction, something that they wish they were doing that they're not doing. Instead of teaching them tactics on hey, this is how you could do that or this is how you could do this, what we do is we say, why? Why are you doing this behavior? Or why are you aren't doing the behavior you want to do?
As soon as you ask that question why, your client will reveal to you the thought behind it. Once we get to that thought, then we got to the cause. Once we get to the cause, then we start talking and working and helping the client understand that the cause of their problem is the part that needs to be solved before we just start treating the symptoms.
Let me give you an example. If you have a client that comes to you that says, "I'm overeating all the time," that's an action that they're taking that they don't want to be taking. What we say to them is, instead of, "Well, why don't you take the food out of your house? Why don't you remove everything that is junk food that you're overeating? Why don't you only put so much on your plate?"
That's treating the symptom, right? That's trying to control the behavior or change the behavior without having found the cause of it. Instead, if the client comes to you and says, "I'm overeating," and you say, "Why are you overeating?", then you're going to get to the cause of the problem. Once you understand why the client is overeating, and there's many reasons why clients overeat. You don't know why they're overeating and just because your first client had this reason for overeating, this client may have a different reason, right?
You ask them, "Why are you overeating?" They will, at first, maybe have a hard time finding that answer. It may be something they haven't thought of before but we spend enough time there to really get to the bottom of that and then from there we change that cause and once we've done that, then there's no reason to treat the symptom because the symptom is gone.
It's just like if someone were to break their arm and you say, "Oh, well, it hurts. Let's just keep giving you aspirin. Let's just keep giving you aspirin. Oh, it hurts? I'll give you some more aspirin." Or, "Oh, it hurts when you move it this way or that way? Well, stop moving this way or that way."
That's not the type of coaching that we offer. We don't treat the symptoms. We find out why is your arm hurting. Oh, it's broken. Let's fix that break and then you don't need the aspirin, then you don't need to treat the symptom.
At The Life Coach School, we do Causal Coaching. We ask why, we find out the reason, and then we treat that.