Video: Diversifying Your Joy
How much of your joy comes from food or food related activities? If it's number 1 on your list like it was for me and like for many of my clients, you will understand why reducing the amount of food you eat in your life is ultimately reducing the joy that you have in your life and you might be a little reluctant to do it.
Join in as Brooke Castillo from the Life Coach School talks about losing weight and diversifying your joy.
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Hi, it's Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School. Today I'm going to talk to you about losing weight and diversifying your joy. It's really important when you start on this weight loss journey and if you're a coach and you're working with clients on their weight loss journey, that you remember that so many of us think that joy comes from food. So many of the activities that we surround ourselves with in our life are food related.
Actually, we use food for entertainment. If you think about the food that you eat, that's just for fuel, that's just to sustain your body, that's just to keep you alive, and then you think about the food that you eat that you use for entertainment, that you use to provide you with different experiences, you will see that a huge proportion of the food that you eat is solely for entertainment.
When you're thinking about your joy in your life, one of the things I would like to suggest that you do is to make a list of your top 5 sources of joy. What are the things in your life that bring you the most joy?
Now, if you're an emotional eater you may have food at the top of that list. I know I did. So much of my joy came from eating food and losing weight, which did not go well together, right? I focused all of my energy on getting food that I really liked the taste of, to sneaking food, to going out to dinner, to experiencing new restaurants and new desserts, and finding new things to eat.
Think about your own life, how much of your joy comes from food or food related activities. If it's number 1 on your list like it was for me and like for many of my clients, you will understand why reducing the amount of food you eat in your life is ultimately reducing the joy that you have in your life and you might be a little reluctant to do it.
One of the things that I like to recommend to clients before they even start reducing the amount of food or food related activities is to increase the other areas in their life that can provide them with joy. I call it diversifying your joy. Instead of 90% of your joy coming from food, we need to switch that so it's only 10% and that all of the other areas of your life are enriching you and providing you with joyous activities and things that you love to do.
Once that's balanced out, it will be much easier for you to cut out the food in your life because it won't ultimately mean that you're cutting out your only enjoyment.
Many of my clients find when they come home from work at night or even when they're taking care of kids in the evening, that's when they need that extra bit of food. They're going through a stressful time. You know, it's that witching hour with the kids and they think, "okay, this is the time where I get to give myself a little bit of joy through my food." When I tell them, "hey, that's the time where you don't need to be adding extra food because you're in a high stress environment, that's when you really need to be paying attention." They all push back and find that that's really difficult to do.
I find that diversifying your joy, thinking of other things you can do in your life to provide you with that same amount of emotional nourishment. In fact, it's a lot more emotional nourishment because remember if hunger isn't the problem, food isn't the solution. If you're trying to get joy from food, it's just a real cheap substitute from actual, real joy that you can get from creating that in your own life.
Right now, take out that sheet of paper, write down your top 5 sources of joy. If one of them is eating and food related activities, see what percentage that is. See if you can diversify that more and eliminate some of the extra eating that you're using just for entertainment that's keeping you overweight and you will notice a huge difference on the scale.