The way that we teach outcomes at the Life Coach School is a little different than you may have learned before. We focus on the feelings because how you feel about a goal is everything.
Join in as Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School talks about goal setting and how it brings up things that you need to work on.
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Hi, it's Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School. In this video I'm going to talk to you about outcomes.
The way that we teach outcomes at the Life Coach School is a little different than you may have learned them at any other organization or any other book you've read or anything you've been taught on goal setting before. That way that we approach them here that's really important is that we focus on the feelings.
Most of your clients are going to come to you because you're a life coach and they're not going to therapy. They're probably very high-functioning, they're probably doing very well in their life and ready to take it to the next level. A lot of times, people who are non-functioning who can't be dreaming and can't be thinking about the future are more an appropriate fit for therapy. Most life coaching clients are, "Ready, let's go. I'm going to take my good and I want to make it great." That's where goal setting comes in.
One of the most important things to do with goal setting is, as you may know this is very similar to any goal setting that you may have learned before, is that you make the goal very specific. You make it a little bigger than where you are now so it stretches you a little bit, takes you outside of your comfort zone. It has dates and it's measurable. Those are the first important parts.
Now, the other thing that I highly recommend everybody do with their goals is they write them down and they put them maybe on a 3x5 card or on a piece of paper that they keep by their bedside. Because one of the main problems with goals is that people lose interest in them. They get really excited in the beginning and then they lose interest. Being able to revisit the outcome, revisit the goal and look at it and read it over and over and over will help them maintain the interest.
Now if you find that your client is not necessarily wanting to read their goal it's because of their feelings about it. That's where this piece of the feelings becomes really important. How you feel about a goal is everything. What we do is we have you write your goal, we ask you why you want to achieve it, check with your client, what is the reason you want this goal?
Now most people write goals because they think that when they achieve that goal, then they're going to feel differently. What we want to teach or clients is no, the opposite is how it works. You have to feel the way you want to feel when you had achieved that goal now and then from that feeling is how you create the result. The only thing that ever prevents us from feeling good about a goal that we have is a negative thought about it. That's very normal especially when we're stretching ourselves to the next level or where we're going.
If I set a goal, let's say it's an income goal for $300,000 more than I'm making now. That may feel like "Wooo, scary," at first. All these feelings may come up, of doubt, of fear, of confusion, that's normal. When you're stretching yourself those feelings will come up and in fact that's one of the best things about goal-setting, is it brings up all of your stuff that you still need to work on. Then once you've cleaned up those thoughts and those doubts that are preventing you from going to the next level, then you can be excited about your goal.
But what happens is if you lose interest in your goal because you're not reading it because it doesn't feel good, it means that you have more thought work to do around it and you have to explore those emotions that are coming up, that are preventing you from achieving it. What most people do is they think, "Oh now I don't really want to do that goal." Because they're thinking about it and it's bringing up negative emotion. "It seems like too much or I don't know if I'm capable of that." OK that's all normal. That doesn't mean stop. That doesn't mean give up your goal. That doesn't mean start ignoring it. It means you have work to do, obstacles emotionally to overcome, in order to get yourself into the right frame of mind, the right feeling and then from that place you can achieve your goal.
One of the things that I recommend that you do with yourself and with your clients is to write down a goal, ask yourself why you want to achieve it and then ask yourself how you feel about it. If you don't feel great, you have emotional work to do. If you do feel great, then it's time to start taking action.