Video: Paying Attention
Paying attention takes energy. It takes you going out of default mode and into consciousness. For some reason, we're not sure why, most of us would rather just go into default mode and pretend that we're not creating the life we're creating.
Join in as Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School talks about the importance of paying attention and awareness.
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Hi, it's Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School, and in this video I'm going to talk to you about paying attention and awareness.
One of the most important things that you can ever learn to do with yourself, and to teach your clients, is how to pay attention. Paying attention takes energy. It takes you going out of default mode and into consciousness. For some reason, we're not sure why, most of us would rather just go into default mode and pretend that we're not creating the life we're creating. It doesn't matter if you pay attention or not, you are creating the life you have. You're creating it by the thoughts you think, the feelings that you're having, and the actions that you're taking. Just because you pretend that you're not doing it, doesn't mean you aren't.
The first step in any coaching practice is to really start paying attention to what's going on in your mind first and foremost. Pay attention to what you're feeling. Also paying attention to what you're doing. The reason I know this is so difficult is whenever I ask my weight loss clients to start writing a food journal, which is just writing down what you're eating, there is tremendous amount of resistance. It seems like "Oh, this is so tedious. All I'm doing is thinking about food all the time."
Well the truth is, if you're buying something and you're eating it, you're thinking about it anyway. Writing it down is just making that thought process conscious. You may feel like it's a tedious process and you may feel like it's difficult, but you're saying is it's hard for you to live a conscious life and to be aware of what you're doing.
But the very first step to changing anything is to understand what you're doing now, where are we starting from. By paying attention to your thoughts, to your feelings, to your actions, you know where you're starting. Then from there, when you really have understood it and you understand why it is the way it is, from there you can start to change it.
Some people want to skip this paying attention part. They want to see "Oh, I'm having these negative thoughts. I'm just going to change them and go to better-feeling thoughts." But what happens is they haven't discovered what's really going on in their life and they haven't paid close enough attention to what's going on with them to know how to change. The concept that is developed, this idea is self-intimacy. The more you pay attention to yourself, the more you know yourself. Then you can understand that relationship that you have with yourself and decide if you want to change it or not.
It's just like a relationship you would have with someone else in your life. If you're not paying attention to the person, if you're ignoring them when they're talking to you, if you're not paying attention to their actions or how they feel, you're going to have a pretty rough time connecting. That's the same thing with yourself. If you're not paying attention and you're not aware of your thoughts, of your feeling, or your actions, your relationship with yourself will be very disconnected. A disconnected relationship with yourself will be very challenging to create the results you want, because how can you do that if you don't even know yourself? First and foremost, pay attention and increase your awareness and your consciousness.