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Ep #19: Thought Management

I get a lot of comments and emails from you guys on the topic of managing your thinking. A lot of the work that I do with my students actually revolves around managing their thoughts. Most of us don’t realize that many of our thoughts are not serving us as they directly affect how we feel, thus creating our experience in the world. This is why it’s so important to learn how to control your thoughts.

On this episode of The Life Coach School, we dive into how your thinking reflects on your feelings and manifests your reality. Listen in for step-by-step directions for reprogramming your brain and managing your thoughts in a way that benefits you and your mental health.

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What You will discover

  • The importance of becoming aware of what you are thinking and noticing how it’s causing you to feel and what results it’s creating in your life.
  • How to tell your brain what to do instead of following its commands.
  • Why allowing all your thoughts and feelings will serve you more than resisting them.
  • What to do after you notice how your thoughts make you feel.
  • What types of questions you should be asking your brain that will produce the answers that will benefit you.
  • Three steps to reprogramming your brain and changing your thinking.

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Episode Transcript:

Welcome to The Life Coach School podcast, where it’s all about real clients, real problems and real coaching. And now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.

Hi, everyone. Thank you so much for being here today. I’m so excited. Today is going to be an amazing podcast because we’re going to talk about thought management. I get a lot of comments and emails from you guys about managing thinking, and I actually work really closely with a lot of my students on how to manage their thoughts.

If you've listened to this podcast from the beginning, you have been introduced to the concept that I created called ‘The Self Coaching 101 Model’. In that model, we talk about how our thoughts create our feelings. Our feelings drive our actions and our actions create our results.

Now, a lot of us don’t realize that many of our thoughts are not serving us. We think that it’s the circumstances of our lives that are creating our experience in the world, and really, what it is, it’s our thinking about our lives that’s creating our experience in the world. We really want to start focusing more on what exactly are we thinking and why, and are we thinking that deliberately. Are we really making the choice of what we want to think in our lives?

I want to talk about this a little bit because I think it’s really important to review and to understand that there are things in the world that happen that we have no control over. Okay? Other people, our past, things that have happened to us … we have no control over those things, but we do have control over how we think about those things and what we make those things mean.

A lot of times, people will say, “But I don’t feel like I have control over my thinking.” The reason why you don’t feel like you have control over your thinking initially is because you aren’t aware of what you’re thinking. The first step has to be becoming more aware of how you’re thinking about your life. Okay?

I’m not talking about just becoming more mindful of your life. I’m talking about becoming more mindful of your mind, and really thinking about what is going on in your mind and really thinking about why you think what you think, and if you want to continue to think the way that you’re thinking. I mean, these are like deep questions, but once you start really watching your own mind to eavesdropping on it, you realize that you aren’t your brain. You’re the person watching your brain.

A lot of times, your brain has been programmed inadvertently without consciousness and not deliberately, and you haven’t been telling your mind what to do, so your mind is so busy telling you what to do. You’re obeying it because it’s your mind, and so our work is all about first of all becoming aware of what you’re thinking and understanding your patterns. When you can start recognizing, “The reason I act to this way is because of what I’m feeling and thinking. The reason I feel this way is because of what I’m thinking,” that can really change everything for you because that awareness in and of itself can help with the process of change.

Now, most people start to become aware of their thinking. I just had someone make a comment on ‘The Life Coach School’ on one of the podcast post saying, “Okay. Great. I’m aware of what I’m thinking, but what I’m realizing is that I’m only thinking about how I’m not worth anything, and I’m thinking about how I’m no good and I’m not useful.”

It’s really powerful to know that you’re thinking that, but you don’t want to stop there. It’s like once you become aware of all your negative thinking, you don’t want to go, “Okay. Now, I’m a more mindful person.” I remember doing this work myself and I started feeling like, “Okay. I’m feeling my feelings. I’m aware of my thinking, but all I’m aware of is all my crappy thoughts and all my crappy feelings. Now what?” That was the missing piece always for me. It was like, “What do I do now with all of this?”

The answer is, that once you become aware of your thinking patterns and your feeling patterns and how you’re reacting to them, the first step really becomes catching yourself before you react. When you recognize that something is just a thought feeling combination and not something you have to react to, that’s when you can really start changing those behavioral patterns.

The next step is really to start deciding what you want to think on purpose. If you don’t tell your brain what to focus on or what to think about, it will go to the old patterns. The brain likes to do what it’s really good at. What it’s really good at is stuff that it’s done a lot of. Unfortunately, for many of us, that’s a lot of very negative anxiety-producing, frustration-producing thinking.

Okay. Step one, become aware of what you’re thinking. Notice how that’s causing you to feel and react, and notice what results that is creating in your life. Now, I taught this concept to one of my students and she asked this really fantastic question. What she said was, “Okay. You’ve told us that if we think a certain way, we’re going to get negative results. Shouldn’t we resist thinking that way?” Then she said, “You’ve also told us not to resist our feelings and to feel them, so I feel like this is kind of contradictory.”

It’s a really good question but it’s not accurate and it’s not what I’m teaching. What I’m teaching is to allow everything. Allow your thoughts. Allow your feelings. Right? You decide whether you’re going to react to them or not. Once you allow them, that’s when you can increase your awareness of them. When you resist something, you block it out of your consciousness. It does not mean you stop thinking it. It certainly doesn’t mean you’d stop feeling it and you most likely will be reacting to it because it’s unconscious.

That’s why so many of  us feel so out of control all the time because we feel like we don’t know why we do what we do. “I don’t want to eat that much food. I don’t want to yell at my kids. I don’t want to yell at my husband. I don’t want to watch all of this TV,” or “I don’t want to be surfing the internet for hours and hours, but I just can’t seem to control it.” The reason why we’re unable to control our reactions in our life is because we’re unaware of the thoughts and feelings driving them. Once we become aware, it becomes much easier to notice the thought and the feeling before the reaction happens and to make a deliberate choice there. Ultimately, the choice can happen at the thought level, when you start directing your mind and telling it what to think.

Okay. One of the confusing things here is, my students will say to me, “Okay. Once I know that I’m having a lot of negative thinking, you tell me that I can direct my mind to become more positive. What I want to do is forget about all that negative thinking and just focus on the positive thinking.” It can’t be done that way, and it doesn’t mean to be done that way. Here’s why.

If you are willing to feel any emotion, and this is something I’ve been talking a lot about on this podcast, right? If there’s any emotion, bring it on. If that is your attitude, you’re not going to be so freaked out by the negative thoughts when they appear in your brain. They will appear because that’s what you’ve trained your brain to do by living your life, and you’re not supposed to live your whole life with positive emotion. There are instances in your life where you’re going to want to choose negative emotion. That’s part of the human experience, right?

If you feel sad about something, that’s a choice a lot of the times. You want to feel sad about something. If you feel upset about something, if you feel frustrated … sometimes, those are the ways that you want to feel. Allowing yourself to feel the way you want to feel is a huge piece of it.

The other piece of it is just noticing. When you feel negative emotion that you don’t have to resist, avoid or react to it, you can just simply feel it. What is the big deal? Feel some resistance. Feel some anxiety. Feel some frustration. If you are willing to feel those emotions, you will stop reacting to them. If you stop reacting to them, you will stop perpetuating them. Okay?

When you allow yourself to feel the negative emotion, then you can access the thought that’s causing it. Now, most people make the mistake at this point and they start really wanting to get rid of it, slash it, get rid of such negative thinking. “I can’t believe I’m thinking that I have such low self-esteem. I can’t believe that I’m thinking I’m such a terrible person.” When you resist that you can’t understand it, and I like to understand and allow everything because then, I can own it and release it.

If you notice that you have a lot of thoughts about yourself that are “I’m no good”, “I’m never going to amount to anything”, “I’m never going to be able to lose weight”, “I’m not as talented as those people”, “I’m not as beautiful as those people”, “I’m not as thin as those people” … whatever it is that comes up for you, greet that thought with compassion. Right? Notice that that’s what you’re thinking.

It’s still a choice, but be curious why are you making that choice. Why are you choosing to think that, and really acknowledge that it is something you’re choosing to think, and be compassionate with yourself about it. Just that in and of itself makes it so much easier to release it, because as long as you’re pushing it away from you, it’s really hard to hold it in the palm of your hand.

I like to think about these thoughts that I have, especially the negative ones as sentences that I can just put in the palm of my hand and have a look at them, and just see what’s going on there with them. At that point, then I can decide, “Is this something I want to continue to think or not?”, and then, you can start focusing on what you do want to think.

Now, this is not pretending to think positive emotion. This is not saying, “I wish I believed that I was beautiful, so I’m just going to go around saying ‘I’m beautiful. I’m beautiful. I’m beautiful. I’m beautiful. I’m beautiful’.” Here’s what you have to remember about all replacement thoughts and all focused thinking. You can’t convince yourself of it. It has to be believable and it has to feel good.

One of the things that is really important is to move up the scale of thinking. If you are thinking of yourself as “I’m no good”, don’t try to go to, “I’m the best person in the whole wide world. Rainbows and daisies and sparkles.” Right? Don’t try and do that.

Go from, “I am no good. I’m not worth anything to. I am a human being.” Right? Can you see how it’s a more neutral thought? It takes away some of the negative connotation and it shifts you into a different feeling without trying to pretend anything.

A lot of my clients with their bodywork, I’ll tell them to go from, “I have a fat body” to just “I have a body,” and just go to the place where you recognize that you have a body. That, that neutral statement for yourself can be much better than, “I have an ugly fat body.” “I have a body.” That’s a thought that you can focus your brain onto. “I have a body. I have a body. I have a body.” Notice when the negative thought comes up, and you can direct it to “I have a body. I have a body.”

Also, it’s important before you start trying to ‘Change your thinking’ is notice when you think “I have a fat body”, how do you feel, and then what do you do? Ironically, most of us eat when we think that way. That’s just a good pattern to understand and be compassionate and non-judgmental about. When you think, “I have no self-worth”, “I’m not worth anything”, how do you feel when you think that way, and then what do you do? Right?

Then, can you just switch, “I was created by something bigger than myself. I am here. I am matter.” A lot of people can’t get to the place where they believe that they do matter, but they can get to the place where they know they have matter. They exist. Just making that shift from a negative to a neutral can be huge, and you direct your thought.

This is not, “Oh my God. There’s always a negative thoughts. I’m going to push, push, push, push, push, push against, so I can only thinking positive happy thoughts.” That’s not it. We notice the negative thoughts. We’re not afraid of them because all they can do is cause negative emotion, and there’s no emotion that we’re not willing to feel, so no big deal, right?

“I’ll feel whatever negative emotion. My boss yells at me. I have a thought he shouldn’t yell at me. I feel frustrated. I’m willing to feel all of that. I’m willing to notice it, but I don’t have to. I can notice that that’s also a choice. Next time he yells at me, I can choose to think something different, but I may not. If I don’t, it’s okay because there is no emotion that I’m not willing to feel.”

The difference when you’re willing to feel an emotion with the difference of what happens with that willingness is you don’t have to react to it. It’s the resisting of emotion that causes us to react, avoid, right? When we react to ourselves or avoid ourselves, that’s when we go into these compulsive behaviors, and that’s when we start acting in ways that we don’t want to act.

The problem for most of us is we believe we are our thoughts. We believe that what we think is true about ourselves, and we think that what we think is who we are. If we’re thinking a bunch of negative thoughts about ourselves, then we are going to believe that we are negative people, right? The truth is, those are just thoughts. That’s not  who we really are. Those are just thoughts that we have decided to think unconsciously, and we can decide to think something different.

Managing your mind and deciding what you wanted to think about is the secret to a happy life, period. If you are constantly thinking positive, wonderful things that you truly believe about yourself, you are going to feel much happier than if you’re thinking thoughts that are negative about other people or yourself. Notice, whenever you have a thought, how does that thought feel? Notice that. Do I want to keep thinking that?

Now, if you try to approach this process with resistance and with anger, you’re going to get into trouble, because then you’re going to start adding thoughts on top of negative thoughts, and then you’re going to beat yourself up for having the negative thoughts, and then you’re going to try and push away the negative thoughts, and then  you’re going to pretend like you don’t have the negative thoughts, right? What you need to do is step back and say, “That’s a thought. That’s interesting. That’s fascinating. Why would I choose to think that I don’t have any self-worth?”

Now, I’m not suggesting that you go back into your past and find some deep, dark reason. I’m just asking that you ask yourself that now. “Why would I choose to think that now? If I’m conscious of that thought and I notice that it’s there, is that a thought I want to keep thinking? Why or why not? When I notice it, can I greet it with compassion and notice what’s it’s causing me to feel without resistance, and then from there, having that awareness and that understanding, can I stop reacting to whatever that feeling is because I’m willing to feel any emotion. Then, from there, the ultimate step is, can I change what my brain is focusing on?”

Two of the most important tools we use at the school involve asking questions and having goals. Those are the two best ways I know of how to do direct your brain. There’s this idea that I got from Deepak Chopra that is really fascinating to me. What he suggests is that our imagination can be used for either anxiety or creativity. Right? We’re either worrying about something in creating anxiety for ourselves or we’re creating something. I love that concept.

If you direct your mind in a way that’s thinking about creation, that’s thinking about a goal you want to create or a future you want to have, you’re using your imagination. You’re putting your brain to work to do what you wanted to do. I mean really, how cool would it be to think about your brain as an employee, as a tool, as something that’s been given to you to utilize? We’ve just neglected it. We haven’t really told at what to do, so it’s just trying to get good at whatever it keeps repeating instead of being told what to repeat.

This is how I want to manage you. This is what I want you to think. This is what I want you to do. Your brain is an amazing tool. One of the best ways is to have a really exciting goal that you think about every day. You look at the goal every day, you tell your brain, “That’s what I want you to focus on.” Any of you guys who have read Napoleon Hill’s ‘Think and Grow Rich’, he talks about this in detail. He talks about how the brain needs to be thinking about what it wants and repeat and repeat and repeat and repeat, and then that’s what it will go about the business of doing.

The second thing you can do is to ask yourself amazingly good questions. If you ask yourself an awesome question, “How can I feel great today? How can I help the world today? How can I contribute today? What can I do to have on today? What can I think today that will create a lot of the positive emotion?” … When you ask your brain questions, it can’t help but find an answer. That is what the brain is trained to do. It loves to answer questions.

If you ask it a really crappy question, it’s going to give you a lot of negative thinking. “Why am I so tired? Why am I so stupid? Why don’t I have any self-worth?” If you ask yourself those questions, it will give you answers. It will give you thoughts to think. If you ask it positive questions, it will give you thoughts to think that are positive, right? “Why am I so lucky? Why did this world treat me with such amazing bounty?” … You can come up with all of these answers.

“What do I have to be thankful for? What do I love right now? What makes me so happy right now?” … Those are questions that are going to get your brain focused, right? It’s going to tell your brain what to do, and it’s going to come up with a lot more positive thinking for you.

Now, once you’ve gotten some thoughts that you really do believe in, then, you need to practice some. I suggest you put them on stickies, put them on three by five cards, write them on your binders, write them in your computers … Remind yourself what you want the brain to be thinking. You need to feed it what you want it to do. It’s just like a computer.

It doesn’t really care if it thinks negative thoughts or positive thoughts. It’s just a thinker. It just does what it’s told. If it’s been told a lot of negative things its whole life, that’s what it knows how to do really well. If it’s been told a lot of positive things its whole life, that’s what it knows how to do. The awesome part about it, you guys is that you can decide to change that. If you want to think different thoughts, you’re the one that can program it.

Step one, figure out what you’re thinking. Become aware of it. Step two; be willing to allow any feeling. Don’t be afraid to feel any feeling. The worst thing that can happen is you have a vibration in your body. That’s all a feeling is. Remind yourself, if you were telling an alien what a feeling was and they’re like, “What’s the big deal?” it’ll be very hard for you to explain what the big deal is. It’s a vibration in your body. You’re willing to feel anything. You won’t be afraid of your thinking and you’ll be willing to really look at it.

Then, the next step is to stop reacting to those feelings by being aware of them. Then, from that point, you can decide to start changing how you feel by changing how you think. That is how the progression goes. I want to really encourage you to do a thought download, to really look at what you’re thinking and notice how it’s causing you to feel. That’s one of the things I teach in how to solve any problem.

One of the products that I told you guys about in my last podcast is just write down everything you’re thinking and notice how it causes you to feel, and take the power back. When you recognize that you’re the one making you feel a certain way, it’s really powerful to know that. If you’re willing to allow it instead of resist it, and you’re willing to look at it with curiosity instead of beating yourself up, that’s where your power is going to come in where you’re going to be able to change what you’re thinking. I’m not talking about pretending like you’re happy.  I’m talking about genuinely creating the emotion you want to feel most of the time.

Tell me in the comments. You can go to ‘’, and let’s talk about what are you currently thinking, what do you want to start thinking, and maybe, what is that in between thought that’s going to get you there. How are you going to bridge from negative thought to positive thought, and is there a feeling that you don’t think you’re willing to feel and why not? Let’s explore that some more too.

Anyway, I gave you guys a lot. I know that some of you have told me that you have to listen to these twice because I packed so much information in there. I think this is definitely one of those, one of those podcasts that you could listen to twice to really understand the power of your mind and how important it is to manage your thoughts, to manage your mind, and to create what you want your mind to do and ultimately deliver to you in your life.

I hope you guys have an amazing week. I’ll talk to you next week. Bye for now.

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  1. Hi Brooke, I’m a big fan of your podcast and coaching approach. In fact I’ve steered several of my coaching clients and friends to you. Many of them rave about having a portable coach in your podcast.

    My question for you has to do with your teachings about the connection between our thoughts and feelings. I agree there is a powerful and often misunderstood link. And that we can better manage our emotional state with wise intentional awareness and thought-choice. Your message about how we can welcome, stifle, or magnify feelings with our thinking comes across so well in your podcasts.

    I’d like to add a notion and ask that you consider an additional perspective. With research and experience I’ve come to believe that thought and emotion are like dance partners that alternate leading the way. You eloquently teach about when thought leads the dance, and gets us stuck in unhealthy ruts. What about the occasions when feeling precedes thought? Somestimes emotion leads the dance. Like when a given song evokes a powerful emotion, a glass of wine creates a certain mood, or a crying friend moves others to tears as well. There are many other instances when emotions occur without an initiating thought. My belief is that each emotion comes with a message that we can decipher with discernment. We can also then choose how to think about it.

    I’ll be curious to hear your thoughts on the idea that thoughts and feelings work together as partners to create our experience. Like you, I believe that self-awareness and action determine our life path.

    If you haven’t read them…I highly recommend Candace Pert’s book “The Molecules of Emotion” and Karla McLaren’s book “The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You”. Their work and the approach you teach make a powerful combined understanding that can work together for anyone seeking to live with more equanimity.

    Thanks for the opportunity to comment! Keep up the great work.


    Matt Kelly, CPC, CAC
    Recover Your Peace – Recovery Coaching
    Ph: 816-289-9861

    1. Hi Matt,

      Thank so much for your kind words and for your question.

      I want to start with saying thoughts before feelings vs. feelings before thoughts is a minor distinction when it comes to this work. If I can just get my clients to think about their thoughts and their feelings, I feel like I am winning.

      That being said, I do believe thoughts come before feelings. It is important to distinguish between a feeling and a sensation. A sensation starts in your body and travels to your brain. Sensations include anything that is involuntary.. body hunger, thirst, cold, fight/flight etc. I would consider your example above with wine being an example of a body sensation.

      Sensation does proceed thought. But emotion does not. Emotion happens because we have a thought.

      When you hear a song-you have a thought that creates emotion. You might remember something.
      When a friend is crying, you have a thought about their crying..and feel for them etc.

      Have you read the book, Blink? Malcolm Gladwell talks about how so many of our thoughts are creating emotions we don’t even realize. It’s like all these micro observations give us a feeling and we aren’t aware or conscious enough to notice.

      This is why sometimes a friend crying will cause us to tear up and sometimes a friend crying does not cause us to tear up. It’s not their crying that creates the emotion, its our thoughts about why they are crying and what we think and believe about their crying.

      I do like the work of many teachers who teach about feelings in the way you describe. I certainly don’t see any problem in thinking about it this way.

      I have just had the experience of knowing my thoughts come first. The teachers I have who taught me this resonate deeply with my experience.

      Knowing that my thoughts create my emotions has changed my life drastically.

      I appreciate your contribution here, Matt.


    2. Hi Edith –

      You can post this in the comments on the podcast to get a reply from Brooke or sign up to be coached by her live on our public coaching call.

      Jody Moore
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      On Apr 15, 2015, at 12:27 PM, Edith Torres wrote:

      HI, Brooke! I have been listening to your iPods and they are absolutely great! They have truly helped me identify were I am at. I have a circumstance that I can’t get my mind to think right 🙁 I lived with Alberto for ten years, in 2013 he decided to move out, he needed space and proposed to me to stay together and living apart. We had been struggling with some differences, but I thought we could patch them up! When he left I wasn’t comfortable with that decision but i lowered my standards because I couldn’t bare the idea of not seeing him, I realized how much I loved him, we have had many highs and lows, but I was and still am believing that he is going to come back, he tells me he doesn’t have a genuine Desire to have a steady relationship, we still have intimacy but he keeps distance and he doesn’t want to talk about us. I need to make a decision but I haven’t been able to, I know you say the mind can do anything but I feel that my feelings and emotions are controlling me! I have a internal battle with my mind and heart ! Please give me some suggestions to help me 🙂 thank you ! Edith 🙂

      Sent from my iPhone

    3. Hi Brooke,
      I’ve been meaning to come to your website and leave you a review for some time as your podcasts are amazing. I probably listen to your podcasts as personal development 3-4 times a week in the mornings while I’m getting ready for work. I love the way you explain things. Even when I don’t think the title applies to me, I always find great take-aways at the end and am so ready to take on the day afterwords. Your Thought Management podcast was particularly great. I really enjoyed the questions you challenged us to ask ourselves and the reminder that our thoughts create our feelings.

      1. Hi Sharon,

        Thank you for taking the time to leave Brooke your feedback here. It means so much that her work resonates with you.


  2. Hi Brook, I have been loving your podcast and decided to go through it from the beginning.
    In this episode you asked a couple of questions at the end and I wanted to answer them mainly for myself so here goes.
    1. What are you currently thinking? I am thinking that I wish I was more excited about my day ahead but I am tired and my knee hurts.
    2. What do you want to start thinking? I want to start thinking about how I can best serve the clients I have today and that I have energy aplenty to do what I need to and want to do today.
    3. What is the in between thought that will get you there? I am looking forward to seeing the two clients I have on my schedule and interested to hear what is going on with them and figuring out the best way to help them.
    4. Is there a feeling you are not willing to feel? I have been working a lot on feeling my feelings lately so I can honestly say there is not a feeling I am not willing to feel. I have been learning that actually feeling a feeling dissipates it almost immediately so I can think about the thought behind it more clearly.
    These were powerful questions for me to think about today, thanks!

  3. Hi Brooke,
    I just started listening to your podcasts about a month ago and one thing I have been hearing you say a few times through different episodes is that you can choose to react or not to react to an emotion. I am not sure I fully understand how you can choose not to respond and what the actually looks/feels like. For example, with a recent break up that I have gone through, there are times where someone asks me how I am doing or if someone brings up my ex that the tears just flow even if I don’t want them to. How can I choose to not react this way when sometimes the tears just come even when I have been trying to not have it happen?

  4. I think this has to be one of my favorite podcasts! I would like to leave a testimonial, but really do not like iTunes. What would be the best way to do this without downloading iTunes? Thank you.

    1. A comment is great, Wendy. I’m glad you found the podcast and are enjoying it. –Brecklyn

  5. heyy brooke, loved this episode!
    i just have one question:
    what do you mean by “reacting to an emotion”
    can you explain it by an certain example?

    thank you so much!

    big hug

  6. Help! I am trying to go back through the podcasts to find the pdf for ‘The Model”. I thought it was in this episode? Also where can I find the episode that teaches thought downloads? thank you soooo much!

  7. Hi Brooke! I am loving your podcasts, I know I’m a late adopter but still every episode is giving me so many aha moments.

    Brooke, I’m struggling with ‘allowing’ my feelings. I have a thought, I recognize that thought can evoke a feeling. I want to feel that feeling but don’t want to react to it. For example:
    I think I’m not good enough to get a job. I don’t have any of the skills or years of experience.
    I feel so sad because I believe a part of that to be true.
    I allow the sadness to wash over me, I cry, I let out tears of sadness.
    What is the difference in saying I ‘react’ to the belief and I cry because I think it’s true. Cry cry cry s’more.
    Also, I’m getting my period which I know for a fact affects my negative emotions.

    1. Hi Kate, Thank you for your question. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. Stay tuned! –Felicia