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Ep #33: How to Change Your Past

Have you ever wondered if it is possible to change your past? The answer to this question is…(drum roll please)…Yes, it is! This is some of the most important work that I do with many of my clients.

One of the important things that separates life coaching from therapy is the amount of time we spend talking about our past. I truly believe that discussing your past with others is extremely powerful, but doing so without changing it is not very useful.

Join me to learn how you can re-write your story that you tell yourself about your past in a way that will give you a new outlook on where you are now and help fill your life with much-needed positivity. Tune in now, as you deserve all the happiness in the world!

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What You will discover

  • The difference between life coaching and therapy.
  • Why the past itself does not affect us.
  • How looking at your past from a different perspective can help you change your story.
  • The ways to re-write your story that will give you power to be all you can be.

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Episode Transcript:

Welcome to The Life Coach School podcast where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching. Now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.

Hey everybody. What's going on? Today we're going to talk about how to change your past. That's a cool thing to think about, right? Think about all the things in your past that you want to change. You could just magic wand them. You really can. This is some of the most important work that I do with my clients. One of the things that really separates life coaching from therapy is how much time we spend talking about our past. So much of therapy, it depends on what type of therapy, so let me clarify, I had a Freudian psychotherapist that I worked with when I was in my late teens early 20s.

I used to go into the therapist office and she would say very little. She would just literally sit there and nod and I would talk about my past, and she would ask me about my past, a few questions here and there, and then we would talk more about it. I was in my early 20s. I didn't have much of a past to talk about, but I went to therapy four times a week and talked about my past for four hours a day. One of the things that I really learned through that process was that talking about my past over and over and over again was not helpful for me. I do believe that discussing your past, telling the truth about something that happened to you to another human being, I really do believe that is powerful.

I think sharing our version of our story with someone is helpful. Reiterating it and going over and over and over again without changing it, I don't find useful. That's just my person opinion. It's how I approach all of my work with my clients. I don't believe in rehashing the past over and over again, and I don't believe that it is useful to explain our current condition based on something that happened to us in our past. I have a lot of reasons for this and I'm going to share them all with you in this session. If you are someone that struggles with your past, whether it's your immediate past, maybe you just went through something traumatic, or your past in terms of your childhood, it's all very important to know that you can change it in whatever way you want.

Here's why. Your past no longer exists but in your mind. I know that many of you have heard this before, right? All you have is this moment. The past is over and the future is in your imagination, but the way that I like to look at it because I don't know why, but that concept has really been challenging for me to wrap my mind around because I'm a very future focused person. I like to plan for the future and I love to dream about the future, so the way that I like to look at it is all you have in this moment are the thoughts you are thinking. If you are thinking about your past, that isn't your past.

This is a huge distinction. Your past is over. The only way your past exists at all is in your thought about it now. Otherwise, it doesn't affect you in any way. Your thought right now about your past does affect you. All of your thinking affects you deeply in this moment, but what happened to you in your past does not affect you. There's your past that's over, that doesn't affect you, and then there's your current thoughts about your past, which do affect you. Your past no longer exists but in your mind. That is a huge concept. Then what is your past? When I ask you about your past now, what is it? It is your story about your past.

That's what your past literally is to you. If you had amnesia and you had no memory of your past, if I asked you about your past, it would have no influence on you in terms of your current thinking, so when I ask you about what happened to you when you were a child, you are going to tell me your story, your version, your memorized story about your past. I could ask your mother or your father if they were alive about your past and they would have a different story, a different version, so your past exists in their mind in their way and your past exists in your mind in your way.

If you have any siblings, sometimes I talk to my brother and sister about stuff that happened in the past, and they're like, what are you talking about? That never happened. That wasn't my experience of it. That's not what we did, right? I think that's so fascinating. There are the facts about what happened that can't be verified in most cases, and then there's your story about what happened. There's what you made it mean about yourself, what you made it mean about your life. I know I keep repeating myself here, but this is a concept that many of my clients have a hard time really wrapping their mind around, so all through this podcast, I'm just going to keep repeating that that your past is over.

The only thing you have right now are your current thoughts about your past. Clients will say to me I have really old wounds. I have really old pain. I have really old thoughts. There are no such thing. You have a feeling that you experience in this moment. It's not an old feeling. It's not like a feeling from when you were three and you're feeling it now. That's impossible, right? There's the feeling that you had when you were three and that's over, and then there's the feeling that you have now. The only way that you can have a feeling now is if you think about something that causes you to have the feeling now.

You're not experiencing pain from your past. You're experiencing present pain, the pain that you are creating with your mind today, so when you think about your story, about your past, you may cause yourself to feel pain. It may be similar to the pain that you felt when you were three years old, but it is not the same pain. It is new pain, new pain, this moment pain that you are creating with your current thinking. That's a life-changing thing to know. You cannot experience pain from your past. What happened to you in your past is over. The only pain you're experiencing is the pain you are creating now.

I know that for some of you this may make you mad for me to say this, because it happens with clients with me all the time. They say how could you possibly say that? I went through this horrific thing. How can you possibly say that it isn't affecting me now? I say it's good news. That person that did that to you then cannot affect you now. They only way they can affect you now is if you think about them, if you think a thought that creates pain, if you create a situation where you're currently a victim, that's how you can feel that way. If you feel shame now, it's not because of what happened to you in your past, it's because what you're currently thinking about what happened to you in your past.

Why is this great news? Because they have no more power over you. I have worked with hundreds of clients who have experienced extreme abuse when they were children, and they are continually abusing themselves now. That abuse is long over. The physical abuse is long over, but they are perpetuating the emotional abuse with their own mind, and they don't even realize they're doing it. They're giving so much power to this person that abused them and many times that person has already passed, and yet that person is continually in their mind and continually torturing them over and over and over again. This is not blaming the victim.

I know that sometimes people say how can you possibly say that this person is causing their own pain? Because it's absolutely true. Something that happened to you in your past is over. The pain of that is over. The only pain that continues is the pain you are creating in your mind when you think about it. The great news is that you can change how you think about your past and you can change how you feel because of changing how you think about your past. The only way your past defines you now is in the way you choose to think about it. I often do this exercise. I think I've talked about this on my podcast before, but I often do this exercise where I present two different people to the audience, and I'll say this person had this kind of life.

This person grew up with this experience. This person had these things happen to them. Where do you think this person is now in their life? Then I'll give the example of another person, and I'll say this is the experience they had and this is how they grew up, and this is what happened to them. What kind of life do you think this person has now? At the end of course, I show them that it is the same person and they would never have recognized that because the stories about their past, the exact same life is so different. What I choose to focus on in one of the examples is to prove that this person had a horrible life and in the other example, I choose to focus on that the person had a wonderful life. That's true for all of us.

If I ask you to make a case that you've had a wonderful life, you can go through your life and focus on everything wonderful that happened to you. You can pull out all the wonderfulness of your life and you can tell me a story about your wonderful life. If I asked you to tell me about your horrible life, you would be able to do the same thing. You'd be able to go and pick out all the horrible things that had ever happened in your life, all the horrible things you think you've done, and you'd be able to make a case for that, right? The story that you tell about your past will depend on what you're choosing to focus on.

If you currently believe that you've had a really horrible life, you will tell me the story and you will tell yourself the story of your horrible life. If you decide to tell me that you've had a wonderful life and if you believe that you've had a wonderful life, you will tell me that story, and that matters. How you choose to focus, how you choose to tell the story of your life matters. Why does it matter? Because it creates your thinking about your past and how you currently feel and act. If you believe you've had a horrible life and that you were a victim and that that has shaped you and that now you're destined for a certain life because of your past, you will create that life for yourself. It will show up in so many ways.

All of us know someone who identifies themselves as a victim, and they may have very good reason. They may have been tremendously abused when they were a child. They may have been victimized in many ways, and then you will see how it perpetuates into their adulthood. The reason it perpetuates into their adulthood is not because they are a victim, and not because they were treated as a victim when they were younger, it's because the are currently thinking in that way and creating that in their own lives, whether it's on purpose or not. Someone may say how can you possibly say I've had a good life? My parents died when I was young. I was abused. I was in foster care.

They're focusing on all the things that didn't work in their life. I had a client like this one time and I was talking to her and I said it depends on who you're comparing your life to. Everything is relative. If you compare yourself to someone who is blind, if you compare yourself to someone who was paralyzed, if you compare yourself to someone who doesn't have food or water, who doesn't have a way of taking care of themselves, who lives somewhere else where it's constant torture and abuse all the way through their life. You can look at your life however you would like to look at it. What I have found in my own life is that when I look at it from a way of everything is meant to happen exactly the way it's supposed to in order for me to have the life I'm meant to have, I feel freedom.

When I believe I had the exact parents that I was supposed to have in order to live my most important life. I had an alcoholic father that was very unavailable, was cheating on my mother. I had a mother who was very depressed and really just non-functioning, not able to really care for us in any deliberate kind of way because of her emotional state, and I really struggled a lot when I was a kid in terms of trying to find my identity. When I look at it like that and I think poor me. My mom should have got her act together. My dad should have quit drinking. They should have been more available to me. They should have taken care of me better, right?

When I focus that way, I feel angry and upset and frustrated, but when I look at my life and I think God, I had the perfect set up. I had the perfect parents that required me to become independent. I was really challenged to figure out what was going on with me, so I could survive. I had to have the self inquiry. I had to go searching in order to make it through and thank goodness. I couldn't have picked better parents to prepare me for the life I'm now living, right? My dad died of cirrhosis when I was young and before that, he was drunk basically the entire time, and yet when I think of him, I feel happy and so much love for him because of what I do choose to focus on.

I choose to focus on how funny he was and how fun he was and many of the things that he said to me and how he was kind in his way and how he was really suffering and trying to find his way in the world and really struggling with finding his way and making so many mistakes, and still I'm able to think about him and love him and not feel like a victim of his and not feel like he did me wrong or that he intentionally hurt me, and that sets me free. I love being able to think of him that way. Same with my mom. I like to believe that everybody is doing the best they can. Everybody is really doing the best they can and yes, I wish they could have done better and given me the perfect childhood, but then I think, but wait, no, maybe I don't wish that because maybe I wouldn't have turned out the way that I am now and have the life that I do now, right?

When you think about your parents, when you think about you childhood, when you think about maybe you're first marriage or your first boyfriend or high school, what are you focusing on? What are you thinking about and what do you want to think about? One of the ideas that I like that I get from Dan Sullivan who's one of my favorite teachers, is you get to take from your past what you want and you get to leave the rest of it, right? It's your past. The only way the past exists is in your mind, and you have 100% control over your mind. You get to decide what you want to think about when it comes to your past.

You get to decide how you want to feel about it. You get to decide what you're going to make it mean. You get to decide whether it was an amazing experience that taught you so much and was part of your destiny or whether something went terribly wrong and notice how you feel when you tell the story of your past. There is no pain in your past that affects you now. The only pain that affects you now is the pain that you have in your present. Thee only emotion you feel right now is the emotion you create with your mind right now. Believing that and knowing that sets me free. It sets me free from something someone said to me yesterday and it sets me free from what happened when I was five years old, and it set me free from what happened when I was 18, and everything that I think about when I think about my past can bring me joy.

All the things that I've done in my life that I could regret, that I could beat myself up for, that I could struggle and cringe at, I say to myself, it was always going to happen that way. It's all part of the plan. It's all part of the history, right? A lot of time when I say it was always going to happen that way, people will argue with me and think we have some predestined life, right, out ahead of us. I don't think about my future that way, but I do think about my past that way, and the reason why is because what I learned from y teacher Byron Kathy when she says when you argue with your past, you lose, but only 100% of the time, it really sunk it because I was spending so much time arguing with what happened in my past, and she would say how do you know that it was supposed to happen the way it did?

Because it did. Because it happened the way it did. It couldn't have been another way because it's done and it's over and when you argue with it, you lose, and it just clicked. I don't think I have a predestined future. I think those are all my choices, but I think immediately when something is in the past, that's how it went down, there's nothing I can do about it, I make peace with it immediately. I was supposed to say that. I was supposed to do that. As soon as I believe that, it sets me free, arguing with it, I never win and it never feels good. That may not work for you, but find out what does work for you. How can you make peace with your past? How do you want to feel about your past? How do you want to use your past to make you stronger and better and more capable and happier? That is an amazing question to ask yourself.

I use my past as strength. When I think about my past, I feel strong. I focus on my grandfather who was an entrepreneur, who built his life from literal poverty into a business that went public. He played professional football and then created a business from scratch and took it public. He was an amazing person. I love thinking about him in that way. I love thinking that I have his blood running through my veins. I love thinking about my dad and how fun he was and how funny he was, and I love thinking about my mom and how she really did the best she could and how much my relationship with her has shaped my relationship with myself in such a wonderful way that I couldn't have even begun to develop had I not struggled in the way that I did, right?

Look at your past. How do you want to use it? It's yours. It's yours in your mind. Nobody can change it or touch it, right, but you can. You get to decide what you're going to make your past mean in your life. You're going to decide whether you're going to be the hero of that story or the victim, right? You don't need to go into your past to heal it. There are exceptions. If you've had trauma in your past, physical trauma, post traumatic stress syndrome, those sorts of things, those are out of the realm of what I'm talking about, and there is so much healing that can be done by therapies that take you back and let you experience that level of healing.

I'm talking about most people who come to me who are chained to their past, chained to a painful story about their past and what happened to them and what it means about their life. That is completely optional. You can change this story. If I ask you to write a story, if you decide the way that I want to feel about my past is I want to believe that it has made me strong, it has made me capable, it has made me worthy, go mining for that evidence. You will find it. You will find evidence for that and then retell the story of your past in a way that ultimately serves you, that gives you thoughts, that build feelings of positivity and strength and wonder and energize you and leave the rest of it.

You don't have to take any of it into your brain that you don't want to. If you find yourself thinking about it, ask yourself why. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your past, ask yourself why. That is definitely worth coaching yourself on. You get to decide what you bring into your future. You're future is your property. You get to bring whatever it is you want from your past and here's the best news. You get to leave anything you don't want to bring with you. It's over. It has no power over you. You can release it forever and move on. If you notice that anything from your past is causing you pain, it's because of the story that you're telling about it, and you get to change this story.

You may not be able to change what happened to you, but you get to change what it means to you now. There is no work that has had a bigger influence on me than changing the story of my past, changing what it means, and how I want to focus on it moving forward. I highly encourage you all to do this practice. Sum up your past in one sentence. How do you want to define it? It made me the strong woman that I am today. What is your title of your past? I'd love to know. Share it with me in the comments going to the and I will see you there. Have a wonderful amazing day everyone, and make sure you go and sign up for our free coaching call that we're offering on Wednesdays.

We would love to have you join us. You could get some coaching from me and you can listen in to some coaching from some other people. All right everybody, talk to you soon. Bye, bye.

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  1. Thanks for this episode Brooke. Spot on with your insights and direction. Had many “aha” moments from the truths contained.

    Question about past behavior. Much of the podcast focused on past experiences. How about past responses?

    Many people (especially us in the US) have lived VERY blessed lives. In chatting about this episode with my wife, she brought up the regret some people carry for lost opportunity. They either didn’t make the brave decision, or chose to take an opportunity for granted by not working hard enough. And the chance passed them by.

    I imagine the same ideas about changing the past hold true for regret… or guilt… or disappointment in one’s self.

    Thanks again Brooke.

    1. Hey Jade-

      Yes. Even regret is a story about the past. A thought: I should have… I wish I would have… are all painful thoughts to think.

      I choose to believe: Everything I did and didn’t do was meant to happen just that way. Even thoughts about “missed Opportunities” can be rewritten.


    2. Hi Brooke,

      I found your podcast only this week actually after having a really hard time dealing with the loss of a relationship. I lost my dad 4 years ago at the age of 24 and that was really devastating. Anytime I lose anyone in my life now even just the end of this relationship it rocks my world. I was non functional for about a month. Couldn’t focus at work (called in “sick) constantly wondering what I could have done differently., horrible anxiety and panic attacks. I still have my days and moments but your podcast has helped so much particularly this episode as well as 34 and 35. I listen to this episode everyday to remind myself that the past is the past!

      Thank you so much for offering this podcast. I would love to have a life coach but it doesn’t make sense financially for me. This has been amazing.

  2. I’ve been listening to your podcasts regularly. I’m enjoying them and learning a lot from them. I became a life coach not only for myself but to become a better manager and business owner. Last night one of my co workers and friend lost her husband tragically. Can you do a podcast on helping people deal with grief? I was at the hospital with her and had trouble finding words for her. Not that any words can help her at this point, but we have a long road ahead. I would love to help her any way I possibly can.

    1. Hi Brandy-

      Yes. I will do a podcast on grief.

      But I will offer you this now: Grief is not something that needs to be “helped”. Holding the space for that feeling is such an honor. We don’t need to change or say anything in those moments.


  3. Thank you very much for the podcast through all the episodes. I cannot begin to describe how enlightening and rewarding they are. I really appreciate the time and effort that is put into each episode to assist everyone out there.

    I was just wondering if there are ways to cope with addiction within your model/framework. For me, I think there is a similar emotional aspect to it, as described through your overeating habits in the episode of “Owning Negative Emotions”, of resorting to the habit to avoid feeling the emotions. And I am gradually learning and progressing toward opening up to feeling the negativity non-judgementally and with fascination. Except there is another obstacle to the addiction (nicotine), that sometimes it is also driven by a pure physical yearning. And the trickiest part is the accompanying rationalization that I often fall for to have the next and “last” dose. And it’s a seemingly unbreakable vicious cycle.

    From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for creating such a beautiful portal accessible to all in need of some hope and encouragement along each’s journey. Wishing you the best.

    1. Hey Christopher-

      Thank you so much for the post here. I appreciate that you are liking the podcasts.

      I do believe that you are capable of using these tools to quit nicotine. Yes. There is a physical component-but it’s not violent. It’s not something you can’t handle. Yes. It might be hard to experience the sensations that accompany withdrawl, but if your thinking is strong and practiced you will be able to complete it.

      You will be very proud when you do…


  4. Hi Brooke! I recently found out about you and your work and love this podcast! Thank you for this episode.

    Admittedly, I immediately felt resistant to your idea that it’s futile to re-hash the past. I’ve spent most of my life battling addictions and destructive behavior, yet felt like I didn’t endure any abuse or trauma growing up to elicit this behavior. Thus, I believed there was something inherently wrong with me and that deep down I was just a bad seed, not really able to get anything right.

    It wasn’t until I worked with a psychoanalyst that I uncovered some serious emotional abuse and neglect that had happened to me throughout my childhood, yet, because I wanted to believe so badly that the people I loved would not abuse me, I completely denied it ever happening.

    I have felt so much freer since going back to the past and realizing I wasn’t a bad kid, I’m not a bad person for looking for love in all the wrong places (i.e. food, drugs, alcohol) and that there were good reasons for why I acted out. I just wanted to bring up this point to contrast with your ideas about revisiting the past. I certainly agree with your position on empowering one’s self through thoughts about the past, and not playing the victim or the blame game, however, I had to re-hash my past over and over to really see that many things were not my fault. Any thoughts about this idea?

    1. Hi Kate-

      It is futile to re-hash the past, but it is imperative to understand how you current thinking is programmed.

      That is what you have done here in therapy and that is a very valuable thing.

      The trouble that many people get into is once they find they were abused, then they keep identifying as a victim and telling their stories about the past. Not sure you needed to rehash it over and over to get free-sounds like you saw it with new eyes-that’s a very different thing.

      You seem to be right on track.


  5. Hi Brooke – another powerful episode! I love listening to your podcast each week while I’m on the elliptical in the morning. Great way to start my Friday! Thank you.

    A couple questions for you: what are some of your favorite podcasts you listen to regularly?

    And… what are your thoughts and recommendations for those of us with a pattern of middle-of-the-night emotional events? My understanding of your practices is that the physiological basis of emotional response is our thinking, and understanding the relationship between thoughts and the resulting underlying emotions is key in effective emotional management. What are some effective methods and resources for understanding and dealing with that type of unconscious sequence that occurs repeatedly during sleep…often without any recallable dream?

    Best regards,

    Matt Kelly

    1. Hey Matt-

      Thank you!

      I am not sure what you are asking me here? My guess is that you are waking up scared, upset, or angry?

      Unfortunately I don’t have much to offer you here. My work is all about when we are awake and actually trying to be more awake when we are awake.

      But I do love the question and would be curious to research the answer.


  6. Hey Brooke, beautiful information. I chose to listen to it today so I could teach it to a client and of course, got a gift for myself. The Title to my Past “I had parents who believed I could do anything I set my mind to.” My present does not look anything like they thought it would but the self confidence they instilled in me has served me well.

    Thank you for all you do. Your work has been pivotal for me.


  7. All I can say is WOW! Your podcast on changing your past blew me away. Blew me away enough to listen again the next day. I have always been so interested the “why” of my life that I realize that by doing that, I continue to live in my past. I continue to perpetuate the abuse in my own mind.

    Rather than explaining the voices in my head and negative self talk as a part of my past that followed me, I need to tell myself ENOUGH! Those thoughts are mine not hers and my mind is the only one I need to chsnge.

    It is time I count my current blessings instead of my memories. Thank you so much for your insight.


  8. Brooke,
    I stumbled upon you by complete accident and I am so very happy that happened! Listening to your podcasts in the morning on my way into work sets me and my mind in such a great and powerful mood. I feel more in control of my life than ever before. I have tons of work to do and will for the rest of my life but your coaching speaks to me like no other. You are my “flavor” and I want to say THANK YOU for being you and sharing your purpose with all of us. You are exactly what was supposed to happen to me, because it happened! 🙂 I can’t wait to hear more and apply new things to my life

    1. Hi Cindy,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to post your feedback here. Brooke reads all of these comments and certainly appreciates them!


  9. I have left messages before 🙂 but I love your pod cast and have been catching up my starting my day m-f with a pod cast and thinking about it through out the day.

    So my mother deeply favored my sister that was thin, I was unable to learn the self harming skills my sister did such as balimia and anorexia. I used to climb up in the bathroom counter and just analyze myself and why I wasn’t beatiful to my mom, or really others. I never got it I always though I was beautiful but at some point I accepted that society doesn’t think I’m beutiful and I moved on.
    Now that I’m older I realize how self harming this belief is I picked a Husband that had the same beliefs as my mom “only very thin is beautiful.”
    I love myself and I think I’m beatiful but I can’t seem to shake the belief that other people view me as Quasimodo.
    Also my mother passed away so her voice is in my past as is my husbands. This is a past issue that I formed a belief around I can’t seem to shake, any thoughts would be great.

    1. Hi Rebeka,

      Thank you so much for sharing your story here. Brooke will give you her thoughts on this in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Please stay tuned!


  10. Thank you so much for this episode. I have been struggling to overcome the thoughts that affect me from my past. Ever since finding your podcast, however, it has gotten easier to see where they come from and how to tackle them. This episode couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thank you.

  11. Brooke this episode makes me cry so hard. It says out loud exactly how I have always felt. You gave me the words to express my emotional build up. You always do that for me. I’m so blessed to have met you. You our my soul inspirationalist.
    I love you

    1. Hi Mary, Thanks for listening in and for the feedback! Brooke appreciates it very much. –Rebekah

  12. Hi Brooke! I cannot tell you how powerful your Self-Coaching 101 book has been for me. It was revolutionary to think that I could actually have control over how I feel by changing my thinking. It has been one of the most important ideas I have ever encountered. I also really enjoyed this podcast because I spend a lot of time thinking negatively about my past. In listening to this, though, I realized the ability to draw strength from your past means you also have to be satisfied with where you are now. That means rightly evaluating life at this moment and not thinking only about what you don’t have.
    As a writer, I have always thought it would be a super beneficial exercise to write my life story from at least 2 different perspectives. This podcast helped me develop that idea more and has given me some tools to stop thinking about “what I could have done” and realize what I HAVE done. So thank you, thank you for this. It is exactly what I needed.

  13. Hi Brooke!

    Thank you so much for making this wonderful podcast. It is a pleasure to listen to you, which I do on my commute from work to home every day. I started from the beginning sometime last year and going slowly through your podcasts.

    I am a very lucky and generally happy person myself, so many of your teachings and ideas resonate with me. The podcast helps me put things in perspective; it is also great to have such a structured understanding of these concepts.

    I have a really good friend who is struggling a lot with her past. I would love to have her listen to your teachings — I think she would be able to benefit a lot. Do you happen to know whether your teachings have made it into a German translation? My friend is German and she wouldn’t be able to listen to an English version. Ideally, there was a book or a German-versioned pod-cast. I had been thinking about translating some of your episodes, but it hasn’t gotten to the top of my todo list. What do you think?


    1. Hi Daniel, Thank you for listening to the podcast! We do not have a German translation. We do have some bilingual coaches that get Certified with us and then create their own podcast teaching this work in another language. We would love to have you join us! –Felicia

  14. Hi Brooke,
    I think this has to be the best episode you recorded, and I have listened to many of them. It speaks to my heart in so many ways and on so many levels.
    Your direct way of teaching, coaching, is refreshing and I truly appreciate your work.

  15. Hi Brooke,

    I just recently started listening to your podcasts from the beginning. This specific podcast really rubbed me the wrong way in many ways, so much so that I felt the need to comment on it in order to possibly get some clarification. I know it’s an old episode, so not sure it will happen, but I thought it was worth a try.

    There are many methods of therapy out there having to do with emotional release, because of trapped emotions from an incident. One of the best known ones is EMDR. There is also kinesiology and muscle testing, Emotion Code, and a few others. The idea behind them is that the trapped emotions create a “filter” over your perception of reality, and that only be removing this filter can you start seeing things as they really are, rather than the warped, often darker, version that filter created. You say, continuously, in your podcasts that we are responsible for our own thoughts and emotions. I don’t disagree. But I have seen and experienced many instances where these filters made life harder to process, and only be removing them could I move past something I didn’t even really know was there. I have seen it work for other people, as well, and EMDR especially is a very recognizable (and recognized) form of therapy.

    This entire episode seems to brush right past these types of situations. Maybe you never experienced anything like it, at which point I guess I could just shrug it off as “she didn’t know.” However, it’s hard for me to fathom that someone working in your line of work never came across this type of treatment, even just in talking to your clients. Are you claiming that people should be able to fully function without these types of therapies?

    1. Hi Daniel, Thank you for your feedback. I can’t speak for Brooke, but I do believe those kinds of therapies would definitely be helpful. While that is true, those therapies are doing similar work of changing thoughts and emotions. We are all in agreement. –Felicia